A child is very difficult to handle
during her growing years. She often throw tantrum if she don't like something
you give to her. If you tell her to clean-up, she immediately go into her room
and disobey your instruction. Parents were holding their child delicately.
Children's attitude was very hard to understand as well as not easy to
supervise. If you explain to her about her manner, she will fight you. You
cannot tell her what to do because she will not listen and heed what you said.
Sometimes she will throw something she hold in her hand either glass or
figurine. Her mood was changing every now and then and difficult to handle. If
there is another child near her that she doesn’t like, she fought and hurt the
other child.
There were two families at odds
because they were defending their children even if both committed mistakes that
should be corrected. Both parents were hesitant to discipline their children.
They allowed their children to do things in a wrong way. This unpredictable
attitude became the problem of the parents. They used all avenues of changing
child's ways but prove fruitless. They were defenseless from the little angel
of their home. Sometimes, she was in good mood but it will not last long.
There was a man whose attitude was
terrible. His treatment to the people around him was different. He was difficult
to handle when he has personal problem. He threw his rage to others even if it
has no relation to his problem. He became overbearing and abusive. He became
strict and don't listen to reason. He will not accept mistakes in the eyes of
everyone. He was insistent and defensive whatever he had said. He doesn’t want
to be corrected because he believed he is always right even if he was wrong. He
can easily inflict pain to those caught during his changing mood. His children
were afraid of him and had that fear in their eyes and keep away from his path
of destruction. Even his wife was included in his abuse. Several times he was
apprehended and put behind bars temporarily when he started hurting others. He
never learned his lesson. His bad attitude was now his personality. The more he
became terrible and disastrous if under the influence of alcohol. He became the
problem of his family and relatives.
They believed that there was
something missing in his brain. He cannot control his misbehavior. You can't
tell him that may hurt his feeling. You can't talk to him properly. He can
easily insult you if he doesn’t like you. That's the reason why he doesn't have
friends around his place. They were afraid to be caught in his line of fire.
They were cautious whatever they said because they knew that there was always a
rebuttal if not handle properly. Due to his terrible behavior in the eyes of
his family, his wife decided to leave him. His neighbors asked assistance from
the priest and barangay chairman to pacify his feeling when he became wild but
he did not respect them. He was furious upon knowing that his wife left him.
Then something happened. He was in altercation with another man outside his
house. He reacted immediately that causes the death of an innocent man. He was charged
in court and was imprisoned several years to serve his sentence. His
foolishness punished him. His terrible behavior stopped him when he was now
behind bars.
No one knows if he is repenting what
he had done to the man. Natural behavior cannot be change easily if he has no
will for such a change.
If it happens to you, how will you
handle the situation? One way to handle is to seek his weak points. If you can
hit his vulnerabilities, then rejection can be reduced. There is a need to be
flexible. Just in case it is not possible to talk to him now, try your luck
another day but with tack.
Responding to difficult people need
a lot of patience and sacrifice. It is a tough job especially if you feel
hopeless and don't know how to respond. Just continue dealing with him
properly. Maybe someday he is open to talk to you. Wait for the time when there
is a change in his attitude in dealing with you, then show your points and hit
him hard. If he insisted, don't force, leave him but don't give up.
