SMILE AT YOUR HEART'S CONTENT

Smile has significant relationship for better health. Those people that smile have energetic life. There is seriousness in his smile unless he wanted to pretend hiding what he feels inside.   

     

We smile because it has social purpose of sending message of acceptance, trust and cooperation. 

We smile because it is our way of giving warm welcome and true appreciation.

The man that smiles is easy to deal with. He is approachable and willing to help. He can manage his own problems under the shade of his smile.

We cannot afford to smile if we are in the time of our financial restraint. We can’t afford giving smile to console the pain inside our heart. But for some, they can afford to forget temporarily what they are going through.    

 

A smiling face is part of our personality traits. It is natural and inborn quality contagious even without being told. It is natural reflexes in response to recognition and friendliness. Genuine smile invites friendship. Its value has great importance to the eyes of many people. Anyone can easily trust someone who can smile. Even the most ashen face in history broke his rule and shades a little smile that tickled.

There are many kinds of smiles depending on the way it was expressed. A real smile is sweet and innocent. A false smile is pretentious and sarcastic giving an insulting remark that is hurting under the veil of smile.

Feeling embarrassed begets a smile to hide certain slips and lapses so that the audience can’t easily notice that there is something wrong with his speech or he forgot the line of expression without intention.

Certain lapses are understandable. But sometimes the audience makes fun with the error laughing in their heart’s content adding insult to embarrassment instead of little understanding to the slip. The audience capitalizes the unintentional error something they should not do.

The clown entertained the audience with act that needs laughter. It may be an effective crowd drawer but sometimes it failed.

Being polite to someone makes you smile showing great respect to elders. Sharing little smile even if you don’t want to because of upsetting circumstance in your life is enough to lift your mood by managing your distress to ease the burden in your heart. It’s helping and amazing to the feeling for short period of time. 

We smile of the happy news we received. It fattened our heart knowing once in our lifetime how lucky we are. There are others very sensitive to smile believing it’s insulting to their taste. He didn’t understand the mechanic of smile and the benefit it brings. The uncomfortable feeling is not easy to handle to those that did not understand the worth of smile.

Hardship makes us nervous. It narrowed our perception what to do especially if we are at the edge of our burden. Financial difficulties drive us mad. We can’t afford smile to control our sorrow. The burden is too hard but the effort is less. Smiles helps us think twice and gives us burst of insight as if there is a flow of energy to stay alive.

There are countless reasons why we have to give effort to smile.

A woman can easily win the heart of a man with her smile. Smile relieves stressful moment and lightens the mood. Stress can look us tired, worn-out and lack of interest. But smile gives us a new lease of life.

The leader that smiles to his subordinates can easily win their trust and support of his leadership. He is approachable to hear their problems especially the specific tasks assign to them. He has better relationship with his boss. He can effectively communicate important decision without fear and second thought.

A smiling face during the meetings put the participants at ease and not hesitant to give his views in open forum where exchanges of ideas takes place and necessary. A smiling face put the atmosphere of the gatherings more acceptable and enjoyable. It changes the mood to be relaxing. 

There are many happy faces around enjoying their nights of breads and bottles.

A woman with smile is more attractive and beautiful to the eyes of many people. She can easily catch their attention and win their trust.

Put smile on your gloomy face and you will feel the difference. It seems to lighten the heavy load in your heart and ease little of your worries.

Smile is good to the heart. It increases the good performance of his pumping action. If you smile, it lowers your blood pressure back to normal level.

People that stay positive are prone to smile. Smile is his weapon to remove negative feeling that control him.

Body pain can be remedied by giving a little smile. It was known that it is natural pain killer as it releases endorphin and serotonin responsible for mood change.

The secret of minimizing stress is smile. It induces cortisol, the stress hormone with quick burst of energy to defend the effect of stress.

Laughing burn-out calories has chance to control your weight. It benefits the lungs to be strong. \it boosts the immune system to resist infection as results of cold or flu and be free from the damaging effect of free radicals.

Smile can win many friends. It is easy to communicate with other people and develop better relationship with them. Don’t underestimate a smile. It brings more good than harm. Smile that give comfort to the mind in distress. It is the smile that changes the sour relationship of friendship. It is the smile that tickles the heart and fall in love the first time. It is the smile that lengthens life and add more years to live.

                                 

THE FEAR OF GETTING OLD

Why afraid getting old? We can’t question the changes occurred in the body. It occurred as the cells started to deteriorate slowly as time passes by. Generally, we can’t stop aging because it is part of body’s mechanism. It is beyond our control to hold what is surely coming in the end time of our living.

A beautiful day as we are born seeing the first light of day. It was a day of blessing that we have given the opportunity to live once, the day of too much happiness of our parents as if worries can’t stand a chance to interrupt the day of their joy.

Our growth and development started to take place slowly and patiently from being an infant until we become a small boy ready to walk. It doesn’t end there, as we reached adolescent stage, the body showed its healthiness. The human cells are intact, fresh and robust.

As if the word “aging” doesn’t ring a bell in our ears. We did not give much attention the implication it brings the later years in our life. Our mind was occupied with the kind of enjoyment we choose.  We spend our time away from worries, socialize, adding friends into our list. We don’t have any preparation ahead what is sure to come because it is still in the future. 

Our mind was occupied to something else. We prepared ourselves to handle the effect of life difficulties of our own making. We are happy when we are in abundance as if saving something is not in our vocabulary, whatever there is it should be spend as if there is no tomorrow. We spent it all in leisure to have the satisfaction and contentment we are craving and the excitement of being young, beautiful and healthy.

We did not understand the effect of financial preparedness to the time when we become old and incapacitated. It is hard to admit the truth that we surely age.  If that time will come, there’s no more turning back. We may be empty, lost and penniless. There’s uncertainty ahead, the future is bleak and frightening of which we don’t want to know.

Getting old is natural breakdown from modern lifestyle. There was weakness and tiredness in the body. There is deterioration in the condition of our general wellness. There is sadness in the contour of our face as if there’s no life in it. Diminishing eyesight was common and out-of-focus.  Poor eyesight restraints our movement as we can’t see certainty what’s ahead. 

There is pain in the muscles and joints. There is emptiness in living alone, hopeless, helpless and penniless. There’s fast change in body chemistry and mental power. Mental sharpness and compatibility to reason are deteriorating, forgetfulness is the price. The collapse of mental ability is costly. Better frame of mind is lacking. Self-confidence is lost. We can’t trust ourselves anymore. We can’t communicate easily because of the difficulty in remembering.

We can’t effectively analyze situation because we are poor in interpreting what to do and how to act. Our hearing falter, the gaze has no focus. There’s lack of interest to live. Depression comes in, unhappiness in the making. We are prone to annoyance and sensitive on everything we disliked.

We can’t hear our own voice because of the difficulty in our hearing. Our physical handicap is bothering us too much to the senses. Our physical condition deteriorate, our health conditions aggravate and worsen.

During the younger years of our lives, we celebrated our birthdays without fail. We spent enough to make the celebration with deeper meaning. We celebrated it with too much fanfare every year until the time we don’t want to celebrate anymore. We don’t want to remember that we are started aging. We feared that the time has now come leading the path nearing the end of the road. The life we lead before no longer be the life we are in.

As we aged, we wanted a life as simple as it is. We don’t want to expect more. Less in life is more than enough to be happy and contented. As our physical activity wanes due to health reason, the pain in the body increases and unbearable. There’s no more flexibility in the contraction of our muscles.

It was common to see a scene of an old man or woman sitting in the chair with no focus, unmoved with blank expression. He slightly moved, grimacing due to the pain of arthritis. He felt it quite a long time since mid-fifties. He refrained doing physical activity as it only aggravates his muscles and joint pains.

Loneliness makes his life unbearable but nothing he can do to ease the boredom. Entering into the final chapters of his life kept bouncing in his mind. He wanted to hold the time to pass but the time don’t want to embrace him. His life, his time is now coming to an end.

A good lifestyle may lengthen life for several years more. Too much abuse to the body will cut it short. Following the modern lifestyle is pleasing but also an everlasting pain. Aging makes the skin to wrinkle so fast. The change in body chemistry from being young to become an aged is part of life history of living and dying. It is a fact worth remembering and forgetting but the sure thing is we can’t live forever.

DON'T LET ANGER TO EXPLODE

It is but natural to get angry to release the conflicting emotion and to relax the senses. But getting angry with damaging intention has its price. Anger can be managed if you desire to control our outburst. The degree of anger depends on the degree of its cause. A mild irritation to someone may become and intense fury if not handled properly. If the fury turns into rage, no one listens to good reason. What is in the mind is the chance to retaliate and payback no matter what it pays. He acted suicidal in order to have greater advantage. This is how intense this feeling the emotion to fight back.

Anger is the natural response to certain situation when our lives are threatened or someone wronged us and we are seeking justice. It may also due to physical or emotional abuse. It may also be to our deepest frustration that our needs, goals and desires are not meet as expected. We longed too much but we failed. The failure runs out the patience within us. Once it explodes, we don’t care anymore.

Too much abuse physically and morally, put us to hate someone to the deepest recesses of our soul. It imprinted and it can’t be taken easily. It just waiting there to make life like hell. Once anger control us completely we act impulsive, aggressive and violent.

The anger that is boiling inside put too much strain to our body and mind. The intensity of the emotion is very extreme. The blood pressure goes high as the heart beats so fast and it dimmed the senses. As anger is put to the test, our aggressiveness cause harm to those that wronged us.

Too much anger stressed the body. It is the beginning of many health conditions. Anger increases blood pressure. It causes heart disease. There is abnormal rhythm of the heart. The immune system was affected. It can no longer effectively battle infection. There is laxity of control. Cough, cold and flu were common as the defenses had been breached and the infection spreads.

Controlling anger means controlling disease. If anger is not controlled, many undesirable consequences will happen. Using physical force or violence may in conflict with the law. If the situation reaches to extreme, he may be arrested and jailed. If his enemy survives, he may retaliate and chances that he may be injured or even death itself if he can’t protect himself.

Anger is learned behavior. Outburst is the result of unavoidable circumstances arising from verbal or physical abuse. It may also be due to threat to life. We can be angry even without being aggressive.

Children alienate their feeling to their parents because they are very strict to them. Any minor infraction makes their parents to get mad abusing them verbally or physically. Parents can’t control their anger. They did not understand how anger affects their personal behavior, the better relationship in the family, the harmony and peace in the home. The children developed feeling of dislike, frustration, fear and hatred against them of their incapacity to protect their welfare instead of giving them hell. The concept of expressing love to the children was wasted.

Instituting correct discipline need no physical and emotional harm. It can be done in constructive setting without jeopardizing better relationship with the children. It is important for parents or anyone to break the habit of emotional outburst. They have to control their habit to dominate instituting physical harm and mental torture.

We have to change our perception how anger can do harm to us emotionally. But there are ways to minimize emotional outburst or put total stop before it’s too late.

If something is boiling inside, try to relax. Make deep breath to release the tension and calm down the nerves. Always stay in control of any emotional lapses before it escalate. Involve physically. Enter into physical activity to disrupt developing emotion to erupt.

Involve in mental exercise. Select a hobby where mental power can be utilize to the maximum. Be open to changes. Let the feeling not to go to negative side otherwise you can nol longer reign your behavior to explode.

Develop positive thoughts and spend your time in more productive endeavor rather than spending time to hate. Learn how to listen. Give him time to defend so you will know the true cause of the conflict.

Don’t excavate the past. It may only add insult to injury. Leave the past behind and face the present situation and make solution to prevent your emotion to waylaid.

Focus the true reason of the conflict. No need to add another to confuse and increase the risk of the conflict. Avoid hitting your enemy below the belt away from the real issue. Speak with calm voice. Two higher voices will mean trouble.

If the situation gets worse stay out from the flame away from the battle and review your position. Don’t always argue to simple things not so important as not to expand the issue. Be sure to know what you are hearing is correct to avoid misinformation that will lead to quarrel not worthy to pursue.

Conduct a self-check. If you are angry, your heart beats fast. There is muscle tension to portion of your body when it contract. There is adrenaline rush to defend and fight back. There is change in the color of the face as checks reddened and pale. You are using abusive language and unnecessary remakes not worthy to hear.

Avoid accusing anyone of wrongdoing if you are not sure what you are talking. Don’t take hard sand cold stare to anyone as if you want to biter him.

Slamming the door is a sign of anger you need not to pursue. Don’t always criticize others inefficiency and lapses. Misunderstanding starts from useless and unwarranted remarks.

Anger is common to us. There may be good side for some of us for release but most of it leads to something difficult to handle. The control of anger lies on your ability to listen to the positive side it brings.  If you let your emotion to control you, you can no longer think better and reasonable. Everything will be out of your hands. If you want to do these, then be ready to face to whatever the prize of your outburst.