Separation was common to those marriage couples who don't intend to be reconciled to save their marriage. There were also couples that were separated but have the desire to go home and find a place again with her family that she abandoned. For those couples who wanted to settle their differences and be together again as a family, this tips can help them:
-Be prepared to meet your wife with positive direction prior to your reunion. Any ill-feeling in your heart should be taken out. Rehearse yourself what you have to say to your wife when she comes home. Reserve a good smile. It lightens the mood and enhance a better atmosphere.
-Any disturbing thoughts you have should be set aside. No negative questions should be ask instead a warm welcome to blend the environment.
-You should be neatly groom, the same grooming the first day you meet your wife in a park when you were so handsome in your formal attire. Try your best to be appealing to your wife.
-To greet a better atmosphere give her a sweet smile of welcome and gratitude by her coming home. Remember to bury all those differences in the past. Re-start a new life with her full of hope, full of promise. Love is wonderful the second time around. Give her a deserving smile even if you don't feel it, just smile anyway.
-Act nice. Greet her warmly. The reunion is most effective by holding hands. Rewind the time when you were both holding hands while strolling in the park remembering those beautiful moments, sharing laughter under the moon lit night. Repeat the drama. You were both actor and actress exchanging "I Love You" then suddenly everything changes and you were separated.
-Say something pleasant by saying, "Nice Meeting You Again, Honey!" It lighten the mood and feeling fresh even if there is no freshness at all.
-Have a pleasurable atmosphere. After giving time to relax, talk about reconciliation, the desire to live again and continue raising your children together.
-Do your convincing power to reach into an agreement for the sake of the children. Never take any issues in the past, it can only rekindle another bout of differences. Be cautious and reasonable. Devise a workable plan so that what happen before cannot be repeated again. Give each of you a chance for a change. Agree on something more appropriate to both of you. Strengthen your marital relationship to revitalize once again when you were a very happy family before.
Keep going. Look for the future with great promise and great hope.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Monday, November 3, 2008
WHAT MAKES YOU ANGRY?
We sometimes not aware what causes our anger, how much anger we were holding inside or how to express it. We maybe angry about certain events of our own or other people's action. Any little things can build into a full blown anger if not manage well. We have to control our anger before it control us.
If you find yourself becoming increasingly irritable, you may have problem in dealing with your anger. Feeling angry is a normal human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turn destructive, it may lead to problem in your work, in your personal relationship with others and the overall quality of your life.
It is an emotional state varies from intense, mild irritation to intense rage and fury accompanied by physiological changes when the heart rate and blood pressure goes up. They may be cause from external and internal events happening in your life.
Anger can be suppress and redirect. If you are angry, hold your anger, stop thinking about it and focus on something positive. The purpose is to inhibit, suppress and convert it into a more constructive behavior.
You goal is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the psychological arousal that causes anger. You can't get rid of it, or avoid to things that enrage you or to change them. Have courage and learn to control your emotions.
Those who easily angered has low tolerance for frustration and annoyance and inconvenience. They cannot take things easy. They immediately infuriated if corrected by some of their wrongdoing. Typically, people that are easily angered came from families that are disruptive, chaotic and cannot handle emotional stress. They become too irrational and very demanding by doing it their way. If their demands are not meet, their disappointment become an anger. Some angry people use this anger as a way to avoid being hurt.
Sometimes, an anger and frustration are caused by one's personal problem in life. It is the natural response to difficulties. We feel hurt or irritated when someone or something obstructs our needs and desires. Why do we have such a hard time recognizing our feelings of vulnerability and hurt when we are insulted.
How can we let our anger subside? A simple relaxation will do. Deep breathing is helpful to calm down angry feeling. Make a plan, check your progress everyday. Resolve the best of your intention and effort. In a given situation, focus on how you can handle and face the problem. In a heated discussion, slow down and think through your responses. Think about carefully what you want to say. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take time before answering. Give yourself a break. Find time for leisure to ease the feeling of anger.
If you find yourself becoming increasingly irritable, you may have problem in dealing with your anger. Feeling angry is a normal human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turn destructive, it may lead to problem in your work, in your personal relationship with others and the overall quality of your life.
It is an emotional state varies from intense, mild irritation to intense rage and fury accompanied by physiological changes when the heart rate and blood pressure goes up. They may be cause from external and internal events happening in your life.
Anger can be suppress and redirect. If you are angry, hold your anger, stop thinking about it and focus on something positive. The purpose is to inhibit, suppress and convert it into a more constructive behavior.
You goal is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the psychological arousal that causes anger. You can't get rid of it, or avoid to things that enrage you or to change them. Have courage and learn to control your emotions.
Those who easily angered has low tolerance for frustration and annoyance and inconvenience. They cannot take things easy. They immediately infuriated if corrected by some of their wrongdoing. Typically, people that are easily angered came from families that are disruptive, chaotic and cannot handle emotional stress. They become too irrational and very demanding by doing it their way. If their demands are not meet, their disappointment become an anger. Some angry people use this anger as a way to avoid being hurt.
Sometimes, an anger and frustration are caused by one's personal problem in life. It is the natural response to difficulties. We feel hurt or irritated when someone or something obstructs our needs and desires. Why do we have such a hard time recognizing our feelings of vulnerability and hurt when we are insulted.
How can we let our anger subside? A simple relaxation will do. Deep breathing is helpful to calm down angry feeling. Make a plan, check your progress everyday. Resolve the best of your intention and effort. In a given situation, focus on how you can handle and face the problem. In a heated discussion, slow down and think through your responses. Think about carefully what you want to say. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take time before answering. Give yourself a break. Find time for leisure to ease the feeling of anger.
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