THE LIFE OF A SINGLE MAN

He wanted to be alone. He doesn’t want responsibility. He was happy in his present state. He had different belief how to live. Being alone was enough. He doesn’t want to care for others. He only cared for himself. He did not even plan to raise a family. Whatever his purpose of getting away from the society where he belong was his choice. The choice that is contrary to other belief that a man can't live alone without someone at his side. He had different views.

Commitment is one of the reasons why some people don't want to make a wise decision. They are afraid that they cannot raise a family properly. They are worried of total failure thinking that they cannot even support their own. The negative perception restrained them to decide what is best for them believing that they will be blame if they cannot response effectively to the expectation of others in his capacity to support his own family.

There are others who don't want to get involve because he is afraid to face any challenge. He has no interest. He just wanted to be an easy-go-lucky man without direction, ambition and plan for his future. He relied only in the present. He doesn’t want for a change. This is the reason why he cannot increase his level of income because he doesn’t want try to change his direction. 

He just relied in his family for his need even if he already old enough to find a life of his own. That's the problem of some of us, we always dependent to other person for support. This attitude is one of the hindrances to live a life full of hope, ambition and satisfaction.

The problem is how he manages when he aged? Can he still able to support his own? How he can manage when he became very old? Who will take care of him? If his life expire in due time then who will remember him? Time flies so fast.

It is better if he change now in order to grow. There is still time to decide to have someone he can turn to. He should focus only in one direction to be a family man. He should not afraid to face the test along the way. He has to show his effort and his worth. He should make his life to become worthwhile. We believe it is not too late for a change.

THE DEADLY EFFECT OF OVERSPENDING

Obsession to certain things makes anyone happy but sad. He is happy because he abled to buy one that fascinated him. At the same time, he was sad because it added another credit to his account. His impulsiveness hurt his pocket. He had not given his family they comfort they deserved as he lived in his own extravagance.

He bought something not so important due to his addiction to it. He yearned for sudden gratification to satisfy his cravings to own one. He has no control over his obsession. He got what he wanted. He allowed too much spending to rule and ruin his life. He has no idea the long-term effect it caused to his family as if he has no concern for them. What it concern him is on how to get money from somewhere to respond to his selfish need. It seemed he was not contented in one buy. More buys makes a joy inside him.

This was the problem in modern civilization wherein new technology created many things that fancied us. We wanted to follow the lifestyle of other people with leaving a little for the family. It becomes habitual acts the hardest to control.

Compulsive buying is only good for rich people. They can afford whatever they wanted what their heart desires. They can buy almost everything to satisfy their materialistic behavior.  If those people living in middle of poverty line who insist they can afford, its craziness.  Why allow to be in the verge of hardship when they have the ability to prevent it to happen. It’s just a matter of common sense. 

We should not let our mind to go beyond good reason. There should be openness to measure what is right and not to have a wrong turn. If we don’t have outstanding credit, it might be possible. We are confident and have sense of peace. It will not give us stress to look another meal of the day for the family. It is great relief if everything is in order.

Spending unreasonably is the sum total of deep-rooted uncontrollable emotion that causes us on impulsive buying. It was the source of our trouble. Surrendering to the claw of our wants and needs makes life miserable. There is uncertainty for survival due to overspending. It does more harm than good.

There were other reasons that triggered overspending. In the time of our distress and period of grief we tend to buy unnecessarily to calm down the feeling of loss even for the brief period of time. It also happened if we are on the verge of our outburst to someone in conflict seeking interruption through compulsive buying.

Most often the problem started when you spend more than you able to pay.  Your credit card tempted you to spend more. Your headache starts when it is time to pay especially if you don’t have enough cash in your hands to pay for the purchases not including other outstanding accounts that worry you. You are on the edge of frustration where to go and the person that will save you in your helplessness. You can’t talk straight because of your confusion and anger without realizing you are the one that causes it.

Conflict among husband and wife begins when one of them lied to the condition of their savings. There were disbursements that were not agreed by both. One of them already hooked being a compulsive buyer. Their savings was dwindling without the knowledge of one of them until almost all had been consumed when it was known. The hell broke loose, someone is to blame. Marriage is on the rock, separation is imminent.

If you intend to be one of them, don’t be too shortsighted. You can make your own prevention if you intend to do what is right and honest to yourself. If you follow this tips, you will not regret it instead it give you peace of mind without worries about financial matters:

-Determine the possible triggers that will tempt you to buy unreasonably.

-Share portion of your salary every month as your savings helpful during emergency situation.

-Never rely the use of credit card in all your bigger purchases. You will surely overshoot to your credit limit or your capacity to pay.

-Avoid passing or entering to your favorite store department that will make you wild to make haste buying.

-If you feel the uncontrollable impulse upon seeing your favorite object, stay away from it immediately.

-Bring only cash needed for purchases of the basic commodity items. You can estimate the amount you will bring during shopping based on your grocery list.

-Request someone (child/husband) to accompany you while shopping. This is to disrupt you from deciding by yourself.

-Make grocery list before going to store. Buy only what you listed to prevent picking items not on the list.

-Keep in mind that you have to prioritize your expenses on basic commodities needed at home. The not-so important items should be decided later and should be given much thought of its usefulness before purchasing it.

-If you are heavy stress or angry, calm yourself down slowly in several minutes but not take the option of buying just to ebb away the feeling.

There are still many ways how to control your pleasure of compulsive buying. The only important thing to bear in mind is strict control. If you pass the test then you’ll never be in despair of having no money in your purse.

A LASTING RELATIONSHIP

A happy relationship needs an investment of time and energy. They approached their relationship in harmony with their desire to have a lasting peace. The quality of a relationship depends on the way two people treat each other in good and bad times. They knew that the vitality of their love were their responsibility. Romance is the beginning of a lasting relationship. If they desire to develop a long-term commitment and contentment, then they have to protect it.

To care and show thoughtfulness can nurture the relationship at its best. It encompasses all the attitudes and deal with whatever challenges surfaced along the way. To be honest is a character that has an important role for a relationship to last. The couple entrusted their emotion, love and trust where love and respect valued as they are selfless and their commitment are strong.

Sometimes the elements that go into a happy marriage may seem elusive. There are challenges and difficulties. Flexibility, communication, determination to work through difficult times is enough to have a relationship in a solid ground. Unity of purpose, calm discussion of issues and coping with the challenge together can make a foundation of trust and companionship. It brings opportunities for them to grow beyond their natural abilities. Their combined efforts can create harmony and it will last for all times.

A genuine person adheres to moral principle and character. This is the core values of his life. Sincerity will allow them to break down the barriers of selfish motives. The deepest level of communication is only possible if they both open to each other completely and without any reservation.

Togetherness is needed for a lasting relationship. It measures their present and future happiness. They should continually find ways to enjoy each others company. If their faith is solid as a rock, there is no chance that it can be destroyed easily, it is always there standing in the test of time.

A truly happy couple understands that love means accepting mate's flaws. The person's desire to change will grow if he was accepted of what he is. Maintaining positive focus are qualities of character that poster lasting love.

THE ART OF GIVING

Do you remember once in your lifetime that you have done a righteous thing by way of giving? Do you remember the phrase, "It is better to give than to receive." Some of us did it differently. They give a little and wanted to receive more. They liked to own all of it and share less or not at all and that's greediness. They were only thinking of their own self-interest. It was hard for them to give even the excess of what they have in life.

But there are others who have a soft heart for the needy. They are willing to give even if it is only enough for their family. To those who have no desire to give did not fully understand that wealth is only a temporary material things they cannot hold forever. When they are gone, even a piece of paper they cannot bring it to their grave. Not even the wealth helps to put their life back when it is time to go for good.

Being a Samaritan is a behavior by heart. There was a wonderful feeling by just giving. It gives you pleasure. You cannot think of other things except what was in your mind is how you can help them in a simple way. This strange behavior only found in a privilege few. They were happy to give any little help for the benefit of others.

I know a friend whose life was hanging in a balance. He earned a little in his on and off job as carpenter. He had a family of three to support yet if someone asked him for help especially in emergencies he is willing to give. He helped him a little to share as a sign of concern, understanding and pity. I asked him why? He said it was already his habit to give. He believed there are still many people out there like him who has the same intention to help other people. He said he was more happy if those rich people can do the same. I was touched by his art of giving. Sometimes I felt guilty of not doing what he did. I now realized that those people who were gifted to give has less in life and also has their own suffering and problem to attend. He said he may not be rewarded today what good thing he had done to the lives of other men. But in the next life, he may be recognized for what he shared to others and that was already a blessing for him.