WHAT MAKES YOU ANGRY?

We sometimes not aware what causes our anger, how much anger we were holding inside or how to express it. We maybe angry about certain events of our own or other people's action. Any little things can build into a full blown anger if not manage well. We have to control our anger before it control us.

If you find yourself becoming increasingly irritable, you may have problem in dealing with your anger. Feeling angry is a normal human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turn destructive, it may lead to problem in your work, in your personal relationship with others and the overall quality of your life.

It is an emotional state varies from intense, mild irritation to intense rage and fury accompanied by physiological changes when the heart rate and blood pressure goes up. They may be cause from external and internal events happening in your life.

Anger can be suppress and redirect. If you are angry, hold your anger, stop thinking about it and focus on something positive. The purpose is to inhibit, suppress and convert it into a more constructive behavior.

You goal is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the psychological arousal that causes anger. You can't get rid of it, or avoid to things that enrage you or to change them. Have courage and learn to control your emotions.

Those who easily angered has low tolerance for frustration and annoyance and inconvenience. They cannot take things easy. They immediately infuriated if corrected by some of their wrongdoing. Typically, people that are easily angered came from families that are disruptive, chaotic and cannot handle emotional stress. They become too irrational and very demanding by doing it their way. If their demands are not meet, their disappointment become an anger. Some angry people use this anger as a way to avoid being hurt.

Sometimes, an anger and frustration are caused by one's personal problem in life. It is the natural response to difficulties. We feel hurt or irritated when someone or something obstructs our needs and desires. Why do we have such a hard time recognizing our feelings of vulnerability and hurt when we are insulted.

How can we let our anger subside? A simple relaxation will do. Deep breathing is helpful to calm down angry feeling. Make a plan, check your progress everyday. Resolve the best of your intention and effort. In a given situation, focus on how you can handle and face the problem. In a heated discussion, slow down and think through your responses. Think about carefully what you want to say. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take time before answering. Give yourself a break. Find time for leisure to ease the feeling of anger.