THE PROBLEM WITH GROWING-UP

In some families, there was always disagreement between parents and teenagers. It is very painful seeing a child turned into a disrespectful teenager. When parents talked about right thing, the teenager do the wrong thing. There's always the opposite. Why? Teenager don't like to be interfered with his own life. He wanted to decide what is best for him. The teenager failed to realized that he put his life into a risky position where his decision will always fail.

There was a distant relationship among them. Teenager don't believe parents are always right. What he decided was right also. He disobeys his parents because he wanted to create his own identity without interference from them: whether he is right or wrong.

Teenager has that feeling of uncertainty and doubt about himself but he used rebellion as the reason to tell his parents that he is responsible to his own life.

Some parents tolerated this kind of behavior because they don't want to lengthen their disagreement that might lead to another serious confrontation. They can't discipline their teenager who is hard-headed, rebellious and disrespectful. If they insist, teenager will resort to running away and be at the mercy of another rebellious group. It is the deepest fear of the parents to see their son totally separated from their direction and guidance. Then suddenly their beloved son became the menace of the society for delinquency.

This scene is common to some of the families today. Teenagers are doing things that is different from the expectation of their parents. Allowing dependence will result to resentment. So parents are allowing their teenage son to make his own choice. It seemed the son is testing his parent's patience by resisting any rules.

For those parents who don't have a problematic children yet, they must guide their child closely. Train them for self-respect. Set limit but with values.