DON'T LET ANGER TO EXPLODE

It is but natural to get angry to release the conflicting emotion and to relax the senses. But getting angry with damaging intention has its price. Anger can be managed if you desire to control our outburst. The degree of anger depends on the degree of its cause. A mild irritation to someone may become and intense fury if not handled properly. If the fury turns into rage, no one listens to good reason. What is in the mind is the chance to retaliate and payback no matter what it pays. He acted suicidal in order to have greater advantage. This is how intense this feeling the emotion to fight back.

Anger is the natural response to certain situation when our lives are threatened or someone wronged us and we are seeking justice. It may also due to physical or emotional abuse. It may also be to our deepest frustration that our needs, goals and desires are not meet as expected. We longed too much but we failed. The failure runs out the patience within us. Once it explodes, we don’t care anymore.

Too much abuse physically and morally, put us to hate someone to the deepest recesses of our soul. It imprinted and it can’t be taken easily. It just waiting there to make life like hell. Once anger control us completely we act impulsive, aggressive and violent.

The anger that is boiling inside put too much strain to our body and mind. The intensity of the emotion is very extreme. The blood pressure goes high as the heart beats so fast and it dimmed the senses. As anger is put to the test, our aggressiveness cause harm to those that wronged us.

Too much anger stressed the body. It is the beginning of many health conditions. Anger increases blood pressure. It causes heart disease. There is abnormal rhythm of the heart. The immune system was affected. It can no longer effectively battle infection. There is laxity of control. Cough, cold and flu were common as the defenses had been breached and the infection spreads.

Controlling anger means controlling disease. If anger is not controlled, many undesirable consequences will happen. Using physical force or violence may in conflict with the law. If the situation reaches to extreme, he may be arrested and jailed. If his enemy survives, he may retaliate and chances that he may be injured or even death itself if he can’t protect himself.

Anger is learned behavior. Outburst is the result of unavoidable circumstances arising from verbal or physical abuse. It may also be due to threat to life. We can be angry even without being aggressive.

Children alienate their feeling to their parents because they are very strict to them. Any minor infraction makes their parents to get mad abusing them verbally or physically. Parents can’t control their anger. They did not understand how anger affects their personal behavior, the better relationship in the family, the harmony and peace in the home. The children developed feeling of dislike, frustration, fear and hatred against them of their incapacity to protect their welfare instead of giving them hell. The concept of expressing love to the children was wasted.

Instituting correct discipline need no physical and emotional harm. It can be done in constructive setting without jeopardizing better relationship with the children. It is important for parents or anyone to break the habit of emotional outburst. They have to control their habit to dominate instituting physical harm and mental torture.

We have to change our perception how anger can do harm to us emotionally. But there are ways to minimize emotional outburst or put total stop before it’s too late.

If something is boiling inside, try to relax. Make deep breath to release the tension and calm down the nerves. Always stay in control of any emotional lapses before it escalate. Involve physically. Enter into physical activity to disrupt developing emotion to erupt.

Involve in mental exercise. Select a hobby where mental power can be utilize to the maximum. Be open to changes. Let the feeling not to go to negative side otherwise you can nol longer reign your behavior to explode.

Develop positive thoughts and spend your time in more productive endeavor rather than spending time to hate. Learn how to listen. Give him time to defend so you will know the true cause of the conflict.

Don’t excavate the past. It may only add insult to injury. Leave the past behind and face the present situation and make solution to prevent your emotion to waylaid.

Focus the true reason of the conflict. No need to add another to confuse and increase the risk of the conflict. Avoid hitting your enemy below the belt away from the real issue. Speak with calm voice. Two higher voices will mean trouble.

If the situation gets worse stay out from the flame away from the battle and review your position. Don’t always argue to simple things not so important as not to expand the issue. Be sure to know what you are hearing is correct to avoid misinformation that will lead to quarrel not worthy to pursue.

Conduct a self-check. If you are angry, your heart beats fast. There is muscle tension to portion of your body when it contract. There is adrenaline rush to defend and fight back. There is change in the color of the face as checks reddened and pale. You are using abusive language and unnecessary remakes not worthy to hear.

Avoid accusing anyone of wrongdoing if you are not sure what you are talking. Don’t take hard sand cold stare to anyone as if you want to biter him.

Slamming the door is a sign of anger you need not to pursue. Don’t always criticize others inefficiency and lapses. Misunderstanding starts from useless and unwarranted remarks.

Anger is common to us. There may be good side for some of us for release but most of it leads to something difficult to handle. The control of anger lies on your ability to listen to the positive side it brings.  If you let your emotion to control you, you can no longer think better and reasonable. Everything will be out of your hands. If you want to do these, then be ready to face to whatever the prize of your outburst.