LOSING A BABY

It was painful to a mother to loss her baby. There were many reasons why a mother failed to protect the baby in her womb during her pregnancy. But this was not due to mother's fault. There were circumstances surrounding it beyond the control of the mother. One reason was the physical and physiological mechanism of the body holding the baby. It was not of the intention of the mother to harm her child unless the mother want to control its development.

In giving assurance to put the baby in good condition during his early development, it is imperative for the mother to refrain from doing an excessive or heavy physical activity during her time of pregnancy.

There are certain conditions how she can effectively do an exercise during her pregnancy period. The doctor is the only person who can help her. There are limitation and restriction that the mother had to strictly follow for the good health of her baby.

To give nourishment to the baby, it required her to eat healthy and nutritious food to sustain her during the 9th-month period. Eating fruits and vegetables can do a miracle to have a healthy baby.

The mother should give enough time to have a good bed rest. This will enable her body to recover from any inconveniences during her pregnancy. She should avoid taking restricted substances that may cause problem to the developing child. It is a risk taking drugs, alcohol, cigarettes or even caffeine. It can affects the condition of the fetus inside her womb.

It was the desire of every married couple to have a baby. A home is not complete without him. He became the inspiration of the parents who are working hard just for him. They will do what is necessary to bring their child to have a bright future.

Losing a baby was very painful for both parents to have that experience. The dream of having a good and happy family maybe gone. It was more painful knowing that the mother can no longer have the second child because of health complication. It is a risk for her life to have another one.

This was the reason why family differences occurred. The father lost interest to his wife knowing that she can no longer give another life.

Having a baby was an important tool to win back the relationship that had been strained due to the issue of having a child. If nature don't allow to have one, then they should be reasonable for the sake of their relationship. Sometimes destiny does not allow it to be altered what is predestine to happen. Maybe losing a baby has purpose. The purpose both parents doesn't know.

HOW TO HAVE AN EFFECTIVE ADVISE

We do experience a problem in seeking advise from friends or neighbors as we cannot decide on how to solve a certain situation.

Our neighbor told us what happened to him when he seek advise from one of his friends. He did not realized that such advise given to him brought more harm to him.

Relying too much to other people's advise is not a sure thing and risky. It is not advisable to give full confidence right away by relying this information. Give time to verify and check it over a hundred times weighing every side of it before committing a responsibility.

Sometimes, overconfidence leads to lost opportunities. That opportunities only knock once in a lifetime. Right decision should had been made.

Sometimes, listening to one's advise bring us bad luck. It is easy to give an advise but the effectiveness of such an advise is important either from your friend or close to you.

In coming into a conclusion by considering an advise should be carefully taken and given time to determine its value. If you are careless it may lead to painful consequences. This is the mistake some people experienced without knowing what will happen next.

The secret of giving an advise is not to give any to play safe. What you need is to guide him to his confusion in deciding the best option. Ask him but let himself decide. Whatever his decision will be at his own risk. All you have to do is to support him of his decision. Don't argue. Let him answer his own question and let him decide. Give some insight to enlighten him what to do but it should be his decision that will prevail. If he cannot give any, then don't try to advise him.

Giving advise is risky especially in deciding a delicate matter for a solution. If it fails your friend will be back at you going mad blaming you from head to foot. Don't let your friend dependent to you even how simple is the problem. Your help may backfire you. So be careful.

Although we understand the situation of your friend of his incapacity to decide his own. He was handicap in deciding. But there are problems that cannot be decided easily by other people. It is his problem, it should be his decision and its solution.

If he ask you for some advise, tell him honestly that you cannot decide the best for him. Don't assure him of anything because you are not experience enough in giving advise. Let him understand your situation. You can refer him to other person you know that is more experience in handling this problem. You can ask help from radio station having a program giving advice to people of their personal problem (probably an attorney) who are very good in deduction and knows what to do. He has the knowledge and expertise to make the decision to be effective. Maybe he can offer something than you cannot do.