CHECKLIST BEFORE MARRIAGE

Check if there are agreement between both of you about mutual respect and understanding. Ask yourself now what makes a strong marriage. Does a good marriage require to have qualities, loyalty, faithfulness and fidelity? Many marriages wanted to treat each other equal. They are not treating each other as inferior because marriage will never be successful.

If both of you have objection about strong commitment then don't pursue your desire to get married. The future of that relationship is bleak. Commitment means surrendering yourself totally to your agreement that you will share each other for better or for worse.

Have an honest talk about each of your individual responsibilities at home. If you are both working outside your home, sharing of responsibilities in household chores is one way to avoid a conflict. Know all your household chores. List them down. Go over with them. Then talk to her which one of this chores is for you and for her. Establish a better sharing. This will be your responsibility to be agreed by both of you before you walk down in the aisle.

Each one of you are expecting that when you got married you will have a child. Plan ahead especially if you are both working. Agree about the nurturing of the child. If you decided to put your child in the hands of someone, then go on. If your wife is willing to sacrifice her career and concentrate the task of caring the child is a better choice and more acceptable. The child must grow close to his parents. Doing the parenting should be done by the mother herself rather than handled by other person being hired.

Many marriage couple always fight about proper use of money. If the husband are spending too much even if it is not necessary, quarrel will occur. Saving a little and spending too much will not bring a good result. Avoid doing a poor money management. If you are saving more and spending less then the family will be happy. You will no longer have problem about money in time of your great necessity.

Before you get married it must have a blessing from your both parents. Sometimes, the parents of the girl controlled the life of their daughter or your parents for you. Try to win the heart of the father of your girlfriend. Show them that you are good enough to be their daughter's husband otherwise there will be a hindrance in your union when your parents will control both of you.

Check your potential spouse if she showed personal integrity. Is she dishonest and liar? Talk to yourself the same question. Lying behavior can causes damaging consequences in marriage.

One good chance for marital success is having a strong foundation, values and culture. Is she religious in her character and in her faith? Does your girlfriend is more mature, responsible and dedicated?

Long time intimacy is much better than a short one to give a little space to discover compatibility in your behavior knowing of your likes and dislikes. Many hidden behavior will often come out only after marriage.

If you are willing to follow this advices then you have a great chance that your marriage will be a fruitful one.

MY WIFE'S HOMECOMING

Separation was common to those marriage couples who don't intend to be reconciled to save their marriage. There were also couples that were separated but have the desire to go home and find a place again with her family that she abandoned. For those couples who wanted to settle their differences and be together again as a family, this tips can help them:

-Be prepared to meet your wife with positive direction prior to your reunion. Any ill-feeling in your heart should be taken out. Rehearse yourself what you have to say to your wife when she comes home. Reserve a good smile. It lightens the mood and enhance a better atmosphere.

-Any disturbing thoughts you have should be set aside. No negative questions should be ask instead a warm welcome to blend the environment.

-You should be neatly groom, the same grooming the first day you meet your wife in a park when you were so handsome in your formal attire. Try your best to be appealing to your wife.

-To greet a better atmosphere give her a sweet smile of welcome and gratitude by her coming home. Remember to bury all those differences in the past. Re-start a new life with her full of hope, full of promise. Love is wonderful the second time around. Give her a deserving smile even if you don't feel it, just smile anyway.

-Act nice. Greet her warmly. The reunion is most effective by holding hands. Rewind the time when you were both holding hands while strolling in the park remembering those beautiful moments, sharing laughter under the moon lit night. Repeat the drama. You were both actor and actress exchanging "I Love You" then suddenly everything changes and you were separated.

-Say something pleasant by saying, "Nice Meeting You Again, Honey!" It lighten the mood and feeling fresh even if there is no freshness at all.

-Have a pleasurable atmosphere. After giving time to relax, talk about reconciliation, the desire to live again and continue raising your children together.

-Do your convincing power to reach into an agreement for the sake of the children. Never take any issues in the past, it can only rekindle another bout of differences. Be cautious and reasonable. Devise a workable plan so that what happen before cannot be repeated again. Give each of you a chance for a change. Agree on something more appropriate to both of you. Strengthen your marital relationship to revitalize once again when you were a very happy family before.

Keep going. Look for the future with great promise and great hope.