THE LIFE OF A SINGLE MAN

He wanted to be alone. He doesn’t want responsibility. He was happy in his present state. He had different belief how to live. Being alone was enough. He doesn’t want to care for others. He only cared for himself. He did not even plan to raise a family. Whatever his purpose of getting away from the society where he belong was his choice. The choice that is contrary to other belief that a man can't live alone without someone at his side. He had different views.

Commitment is one of the reasons why some people don't want to make a wise decision. They are afraid that they cannot raise a family properly. They are worried of total failure thinking that they cannot even support their own. The negative perception restrained them to decide what is best for them believing that they will be blame if they cannot response effectively to the expectation of others in his capacity to support his own family.

There are others who don't want to get involve because he is afraid to face any challenge. He has no interest. He just wanted to be an easy-go-lucky man without direction, ambition and plan for his future. He relied only in the present. He doesn’t want for a change. This is the reason why he cannot increase his level of income because he doesn’t want try to change his direction. 

He just relied in his family for his need even if he already old enough to find a life of his own. That's the problem of some of us, we always dependent to other person for support. This attitude is one of the hindrances to live a life full of hope, ambition and satisfaction.

The problem is how he manages when he aged? Can he still able to support his own? How he can manage when he became very old? Who will take care of him? If his life expire in due time then who will remember him? Time flies so fast.

It is better if he change now in order to grow. There is still time to decide to have someone he can turn to. He should focus only in one direction to be a family man. He should not afraid to face the test along the way. He has to show his effort and his worth. He should make his life to become worthwhile. We believe it is not too late for a change.

WHEN OUR TIME IS UP

All of us are afraid to die. There are no sane people want to have a trip to other dimension. It's painful to know that our life will end. No one lives forever. This was the hardest part of our lives. But what is death, anyway? Death is a cessation of life when our heart beats no more, when our mind shut off completely, when our body give up to become dust. Death can hit us anywhere we go, on the street, in our home, in some places, in an unfortunate accident, and even in our sleep. It depends on what manner death will come to us. When our time is up, we only leave memories, our past and present, nothing more and nothing less. We cannot even say goodbye. Those left behind are only to remember us everyday, every year or forgotten us completely as their world is not our world anymore. What was left from memories were the pictures with the children and grandchildren. They will remember us every year by visiting us to our place of rest.

But how about those who knew he has a terminal disease as his days were numbered, how can he manage the painful truth that death is inevitable and will come sooner or later. It becomes a torturer into his mind, losing hope for a chance to recovery.

Some of them have enough courage to face death. In his darkest hour, he got the opportunity to grow spiritually. Instead of turning his days with worry, he makes it to be worthwhile. His passing day was a gift. He used it wisely trying to be happy.

He experienced fear before the moment of death. But he managed it well. He give the remaining days of their life with a purpose. As the time is nearer, intimate relationship grows more. It creates a special closeness to go deeper. He feels he was being cared more than ever before. Every passing hours, become the time of expecting when....

In his deathbed, panic creep him. He used his courage and strength to focus in different direction believing that he is only making a trip to other place hoping to be back in some other time even if it is not.