BEING A GRANDFATHER

During the day when you were raising your children the first day they were born until the time they begin walking their feet to the ground. You asked yourself what will be the future of this children when they grow up to become parents and have their own children. You have worries and doubts. Can their parenting is more effective for the children to be obedient to their parents?

Being a grandfather is a wonderful experience as you saw those cute little kids in your lap, holding, playing, running around you. You happiness was too overflowed thinking that your own children already grown up with their family and kids that were now in your lap. Your children were already successful in their career. You felt your triumph that all your sacrifices to raise them before it paid off. You can see in your own children obedience, respect, honesty, good virtue that you instituted to them to grow under your own kind of discipline. They settled down and became parents like you. You were contented seeing them as good parents to their children. You concluded that good parenting always has good children.

How about those who are still started having a grandchild. What will be their preparation as a grandparents?

-During the schedule visit of your son and his family, cancel all your appointment or any activities during the day and focus your attention in preparing for your grandson's arrival.

-When your grandson arrived, you were excited. You hold him tight, cuddled him using all your avenues to let him recognize you. First meeting was the hardest for you when your grandchild iwasnot yet familiar with your face. But repeated visit can put your grandson at ease and willing to be held and cuddled.

-Don't approach your grandson immediately. Just look at him and smile to develop confidence to you maybe a few hours you have to start approaching him. If he will respond, then hold him.

-Put him in your lap and show him your picture with your children and let him identify his parents and you. This is to established communication to your grandson.

-Playing is one of the effective way to put the child at ease. Play him a game he like and enjoy time with him.

-If you have a house pet like dog or cat, the more the child is interested and enjoy his visit. To continue an intimate relationship with your grandson, show him that you care and love him. In a matter of days there will be an improvement when your grandson started looking at you and approach you on his own.

CHECKLIST BEFORE MARRIAGE

Check if there are agreement between both of you about mutual respect and understanding. Ask yourself now what makes a strong marriage. Does a good marriage require to have qualities, loyalty, faithfulness and fidelity? Many marriages wanted to treat each other equal. They are not treating each other as inferior because marriage will never be successful.

If both of you have objection about strong commitment then don't pursue your desire to get married. The future of that relationship is bleak. Commitment means surrendering yourself totally to your agreement that you will share each other for better or for worse.

Have an honest talk about each of your individual responsibilities at home. If you are both working outside your home, sharing of responsibilities in household chores is one way to avoid a conflict. Know all your household chores. List them down. Go over with them. Then talk to her which one of this chores is for you and for her. Establish a better sharing. This will be your responsibility to be agreed by both of you before you walk down in the aisle.

Each one of you are expecting that when you got married you will have a child. Plan ahead especially if you are both working. Agree about the nurturing of the child. If you decided to put your child in the hands of someone, then go on. If your wife is willing to sacrifice her career and concentrate the task of caring the child is a better choice and more acceptable. The child must grow close to his parents. Doing the parenting should be done by the mother herself rather than handled by other person being hired.

Many marriage couple always fight about proper use of money. If the husband are spending too much even if it is not necessary, quarrel will occur. Saving a little and spending too much will not bring a good result. Avoid doing a poor money management. If you are saving more and spending less then the family will be happy. You will no longer have problem about money in time of your great necessity.

Before you get married it must have a blessing from your both parents. Sometimes, the parents of the girl controlled the life of their daughter or your parents for you. Try to win the heart of the father of your girlfriend. Show them that you are good enough to be their daughter's husband otherwise there will be a hindrance in your union when your parents will control both of you.

Check your potential spouse if she showed personal integrity. Is she dishonest and liar? Talk to yourself the same question. Lying behavior can causes damaging consequences in marriage.

One good chance for marital success is having a strong foundation, values and culture. Is she religious in her character and in her faith? Does your girlfriend is more mature, responsible and dedicated?

Long time intimacy is much better than a short one to give a little space to discover compatibility in your behavior knowing of your likes and dislikes. Many hidden behavior will often come out only after marriage.

If you are willing to follow this advices then you have a great chance that your marriage will be a fruitful one.