MAINTAINING A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP

A good relationship among friends, neighbors, marriages and sweethearts will last if you want to keep it longer. Once it severed for a simple reason, such intimate relationship will never be the same again, it may even get worse. Good relationship should be preserved, prospered and pampered. It should be kept to blossom to be able to flower. Close connection with other people has many advantages.

 It is easy to ask from someone close to you or seek an advise on your physical and emotional problems. They can be relied during period of financial difficulties. They are willing to help you as long as they can afford. They can even protect you from someone threating your life. Some people are even willing to sacrifice for the sake of friendship. That’s how good relationship meant to all of us.

 Ask yourself, can you keep it to last?

If you enter into a new relationship with special someone, see to it that you have the ability to make it to last for a long time. Make it right for the first time. If something went wrong in your relationship, find the reason of the misunderstanding and be sure that the cause is not coming from you. You can’t hold a relationship if your partner is not sincere to his commitment. Find ways to save it. If no good result is coming despite your efforts, be ready to give up. He may  not be the right man for you.

 If he is sincere, he himself will initiate the first step to patch up the differences as he was the cause. His silence means he doesn’t love you anymore. Let him be free. It is better to feel the pain now and regain your consciousness rather than maintaining your suffering for long period of time. It’s useless and it doesn’t worth a sacrifice. If he doesn’t want you anymore, so be it. Don’t let yourself be affected too much if it happens. You can still find someone who is honest and sincere to his words.

If all the heartaches are gone, make new relationship and hope it will not be another pain to you. Observe the behavior of your new partner if he can be relied on. You will know deep inside if he is really loves you. Observe his reaction to a simple misunderstanding common to a relationship. If he can initiate the first step to patch up any little and simple conflict then he is different if he immediately feels sorry of his shortcomings.

Let your love keep burning. Let your partner know that you loved him and care for him always. Always stay connected with your partner. Maintain your togetherness at all times but with honest restraint. A man is always a man if given the chance.

Don’t prolong a simple misunderstanding. Control your negative feeling to take place. Stay positive and make the relationship to prosper. Don’t talk with your partner about your past relationship. What is past should remain to be past. It is not wise recalling the pain of the past. You already overcome it then all you have to do is to maintain and focus your attention to your new relationship.

Ask yourself, what the relationship will lead your life? Are you willing to marry him for good? You have to determine your common purpose of such a relationship. There should be a direction so that you will know what will be your part in your relationship with him. Ask him the same thing so that you will be aware of his position before entering into a long and challenging commitment.

A relationship is not always perfect as what you thought. There is always ups and downs and you must ready for it. Don’t be caught in the web of surrendering your feeling. There’s always a solution in any disagreement if you let your eyes open. Only respect is needed in fixing whatever issues that give you headache. Talk to him often. Both of you will solve the problem at hand. Don’t react to minor problem immediately. Lengthen your patience and talk to him seriously. Work toward the solution together. It is very hard to get things right if one of you will not give up.

If your partner experienced a personal problem not intentionally done he can’t handle alone, be supportive of what he gone through. Be sure not in any way blame your partner for everything for his mistakes. Give all the support he need. Listen and understand your partner’s situation. H will be able to realize how you care for him. Handle it maturely and rationally. It must be resolve in most productive ways.

Secure your good relationship at all times. Share whatever problems at hand. If the foundation of your relationship is strong then it will endure to last long. It is just a matter of putting more weight to its value.

HOW TO HANDLE FAILED RELATIONSHIP

Failed relationship is one of the menaces of social structure. It has been known that there was an increase in the percentage of failed relationship in modern society. Even the known personalities of the world did not escape from the pen of media people writing the cause of their break-up. It has been the hot topic in many magazines and even sensationalized it to be noticed.

Men were the actor of most failed marriages. If there was a 3^rd party involved in a relationship, hell breaks loose. This is the starting point of repeated quarrel between husbands and wives. This is the beginning of sour relationship that mostly led to marital breakdown.

Even young adults at the first place of their relationship still threatened for a break-up if one of them done something that will breach close understanding. Most women were affected of the immoral values of men. Their children suffered from their separation. Increased juvenile delinquent children came from this level due to laxity in supervising their growth years. They became the problem of the community on how to bring the problematic children to reform their unwelcome behavior.

If it happened that you are one of those unfortunate few of having failed relationship, how do you handle them?

Your heart was so deep draining your energy to the lowest ladder. There was emptiness within you as if there is heaviness in the chest. You don’t want to talk to anybody. You wanted to be alone in your solitary room thinking the pain and discouragement that the sweetness of togetherness you felt before with your partner was replaced with hate and anger.

Your goodness was abused and disregarded your feeling. It took you a long time to be able to recover from your pain. It started to make your stronger to handle your feelings. Your experience give you time to think more deeply before looking for another relationship. It motivated you to be careful in choosing your mate. It improved yourself how to handle your feeling in case of another break-up.

In choosing your mate, have a clear vision. Consider everything you need to know about him. Bear in mind, there’s no perfect marriage if one of you has no desire to prolong the relationship, only those that has highest regard to respect and be honest. Know what you want and what to expect from him. He may be honest at first but how long? Consider all those expectation. Don’t give all your trust to him, reserve something for you. If he gives you heartache at least you are prepared for the worst. Don’t just sit on the corner defend what is right for you. 

 To feel affected miserably will only ruin you. He just laughed at you. Instead go on with your life. Show to him that you live happy without him. It may be hard at first but there’s nothing you can do instead accept the reality that you are not meant to each other. Pick-up yourself and kick-out all those frustration and you will know later that you are right in your decision of forgetting him slowly in your memory.

If you already failed twice it might not be the 3^rd. Don’t close your option to love again. Seek your happiness, who knows it may be your last.

Another way of handling your frustration is to find ways to distract you from your loneliness. Socialize and be with your friends. You may have to add another friend in your list. Work harder and finish whatever commitment is hanging. Focus your attention from your emotional burden.

If you believed you can’t handle your pain, seek counseling to some expert. It may help your mind to relax and at peace. Increase your self-confidence to be higher to make you strong from your frustration and discouragement. Improve your spiritual outlook to a better, healthy mental and emotional balance so that the emotional pressure can be minimized.

Any disturbing emotion you feel should be taken away from your heart. Avoid building negative feelings instead focus to a more constructive endeavor. Don’t allow yourself to be slave to your emotion. Find your happiness and leave all those painful memories away from you.

ABUNDANCE IS A SKILL YOU HAVE TO MASTER

There were many kinds of abundance in life. It is not abundance in financial form only but also mentally and spiritually. It was not about money but for the enrichment of mental ability and spiritual growth.

He may be debt-free but his soul lost in the right perspective. He may have the money but he is not happy. How much more he can expect to himself without jeopardizing his right character? It has been said that acquiring material wealth is only temporarily. This is what we wanted to have as if this is the only thing we knew. 

There’s no openness in our mind to explore to other different avenue to enrich ourselves more. We shortened our belief to only one side of the coin not knowing we can still improve it to the level of having great abundance not only from monetary sources but also by improving the quality of our thought processes.

People still don’t know how to create wealth in the mind. The mind mostly absorbed all kinds of knowledge you want to feed it. The storage capacity of the mind can handle millions of information and readily available for use. You will have them if you will not limit acquiring the vast knowledge around you, the many goings of the world, what’s happening in our environment and the life in you and the rest of the world.

The keenest observation to the world can learn you many things. Read all kinds of books at your disposal and you will know the difference. Your thought processes improves, know many things other people don’t bother. There is great advantage in responding to many challenges in life because you knew how to handle them.

 Your intelligence and the many things you have learn will not discourage you to reach the kind of life you wanted to have.

 Use your potential. Keep on nurturing them. There is abundance that lies there if you only have the initiative to look, understand and nourish them. Continue learning and feed your brain with the food of knowledge in return it will come back to you a hundred fold. 

Knowledge is power to change your life to be better and better every day.

Another thing of utmost importance is your spiritual abundance. How strong is your faith? How solid is your belief? How clear your moral values? In spiritual sense, it molds the kinds of character more appropriate in changing times.

 If you have abundance in your faith, you can pass the test of life difficulties. You become confident that what you are experiencing now is just a momentary setback in your life. You will survive due to your belief without giving up, without surrendering to the rough road you are taking. It gives you inspiration and ready to stand in your belief.

It’s frightening to think if life goes wrong. You can easily subject to loosen your faith. You are not sure if you trust your belief. You have the negative mindset thinking of the difficulties. You lost hope and helpless. But with strong faith in you because you nourish your abundance within your mind, you can take pressure without losing your faith. 

Yes, life is full of challenge but if your faith persists, it will keep all your doubts away.

Learn the skills of creating abundance. Make it as a habit. It will change your life to be more colorful and satisfying. No need for you to hide all your frustrations inside your mind, doubts and fears that will take you deeper into your troubles.

Your intervention is an important step of improving the quality of your life. It will always remind you to take step in case of your lapses. The sweetest thing in life is how to be happy. And happiness is where our heart is.

POSITIVE OUTLOOK AS A WAY OF LIFE

We always look our life in negative ways. We easily give up if there are difficulties we can’t handle. We felt hopeless for the first sign of trouble. The burden of the problem makes us helpless.  We became weak, losing our strength and without any idea how to put the mind at ease. There’s too much trouble in our thoughts. It became a hindrance to our action. We have doubts of our ability to handle whatever is bothering us. 

Our negative perception of life slows down our progress stagnated the chances of living happy and satisfied. We closed our eyes to see the challenge ahead. Our weakness hampered our growth.

A mental states that is positively build has the ability to change failure to success. It gives him the opportunity to motivate himself to think openly. To think positive makes life challenging and promising. He is optimistic to improve his way of life without feeling discourage. It boosts his self-esteem to higher degree. 

His psychological and mental capacity is not easily affected by any bout of emotional disturbance. He can readily restraint any ill-feeling inside his mind. He can handle stress to lowest level without affecting his mental well-being. If there is difficult situation that needs attention, he can resolve it without too much of a problem.

Normal positive action has high degree of merits. It trained the mind to convert negative thought into positive one. To think positive in excess of what is expected of him has disadvantage. He becomes over-confident and has high level of ego expecting too much of himself even if he can’t exceed his limit.

Over-dependent of his positive aspects in life is no longer productive. Only a reasonable ways can bring good result and will motivate himself into better person. His mental ability in handling situational problem was strong enough that he can’t easily affected by many challenges in life.  A negative thought process lowered self-esteem. There is mental weakness to uplift his spirit to do something in his favor rather than making a sickness to himself.

A good mental habit prevents frustration, despair and discouragement. It releases the burden in his mind to be more open to changes. He decided judiciously. He corrected his shortcomings and put his positive attitude into higher ground. 

He has complete control of his life. He build up confidence inside and ready to face any difficulties that lies ahead. He discouraged fears to develop because of his belief and unquestionable faith that everything can put into the right perspective. 

Most men acting positive were happy and contented. It gives them peace from mental torture. They conditioned their mind to look for ways to achieve whatever dream they wanted to accomplish. They set up a plan and then give focus to achieve it.

He gives many thoughts in his every action. He lengthened his perception first before he leap. Enough energy is needed to be able to work hard. Success is not offered in silver platter. It should be earned by sweats, hard work and patience.

 Any doubts for failure can be managed well and the power of concentration is high to hit the target. He can’t easily be distracted by other things because his interest was focused in certain objectives. He can initiate necessary action fast and easy. To act responsibly will not drive his mind away from his point of interest instead it motivates him to work hard and do more.

Positive attitude becomes a passion of pursuing certain objective no matter what the odds may be and it does not stop him to continue his intention. It is his hunger to accomplish something of value. His determination was strong as ever. He doesn’t stop even experiencing his first failure. It does not discourage him of thinking to back out but instead it gives him more inspiration to work harder until he is satisfied.

To have positive outlook in life will always win. There’s no giving up even in slight pressure. It energizes his body and mind working together for common purpose, to win from the battle of nerves.

THE BAD SIDE OF BEING POSSESSIVE

To possess is getting something you liked. You wanted to own it with a price or it heartily given to you from someone. There’s certain happiness inside you, a satisfaction that has no bound.

But to become possessive is another thing. It entails limitation within you. You can’t just get it without hurting someone. It is dangerous kind of emotion that you can’t control. You desire is too much to handle. You wanted to own it because of overwhelming fear that it will lost from your anytime which you can’t allow. It begins with doubts about the honesty of your husband. 

You wanted to control his movement because you don’t trust him. You wanted to know every movement he make - his whereabouts and clipped his decisions if it doesn’t suit you. Your mental strain kept on haunting your day and night. Sometimes your husband lost its temper of your too much meddling in his own affairs. But you kept on insisting because you wanted to control him completely no matter what happens but inside your heart you are not ready to bear the consequence of your action.

You need to understand that your husband is human, a person and not a possession He has its own personal space like you. He has his own desire to decide for himself.

If you reasonably loved him then set your personal boundary. This is the only way to build strong relationship with your husband. Don’t focus on the future that your husband will find another you someday. You need to understand that you are the one creating your destiny. You can’t alter what’s store in the future. What you can do is only how to manage certain circumstances that ill you. You can’t hold the future into your hands.

Even how your husband loves you, he has his limitation and patience of your continued meddling. If his patience run out then you will find yourself in hot water. Acting it possessively will not give good result instead it will be a threat to your relationship. Once misunderstanding sets in, trouble begins. If you will not give up, the more he will not give in.

Understanding spiced with trust is the key for long lasting relationship. If you have to start learning how to trust, don’t intervene in whatever decision or action your husband want to take. You only need is to support him. If you will not pamper your relationship, the integrity of your partnership with him will be lost. Instead make it to prosper and blossom for your marriage to last for long to old age. Limit your intervention then you will find peace within yourself.

Maintain your good relationship to the maximum. Control your bad thoughts. Make it a point to have enough self-control. Your support is a he need. Don’t pamper your possessiveness. It doesn’t bring your goodness. It can only scare away a good relationship you wanted to build. Don’t let loose in your hands. It will be too late to recover if something will be lost, his feeling in you.

The secret of developing long lasting relationship is a give-and-take communication, putting intimacy above all things. If there is trust, honesty and understanding, there’s no way for a disagreement to become a serious trouble. If you all both agreed in many things, respecting each other view, position and decision, any little misunderstanding can be resolve with dispatch without letting it to go out in your hands.

Possessiveness has disastrous effect to a relationship. Focus your mind of developing it more but not by destroying it blindly. It’s no use wanting it and then letting it go because of an emotional disturbance that can’t be controlled.