THE BAD SIDE OF BEING POSSESSIVE

To possess is getting something you liked. You wanted to own it with a price or it heartily given to you from someone. There’s certain happiness inside you, a satisfaction that has no bound.

But to become possessive is another thing. It entails limitation within you. You can’t just get it without hurting someone. It is dangerous kind of emotion that you can’t control. You desire is too much to handle. You wanted to own it because of overwhelming fear that it will lost from your anytime which you can’t allow. It begins with doubts about the honesty of your husband. 

You wanted to control his movement because you don’t trust him. You wanted to know every movement he make - his whereabouts and clipped his decisions if it doesn’t suit you. Your mental strain kept on haunting your day and night. Sometimes your husband lost its temper of your too much meddling in his own affairs. But you kept on insisting because you wanted to control him completely no matter what happens but inside your heart you are not ready to bear the consequence of your action.

You need to understand that your husband is human, a person and not a possession He has its own personal space like you. He has his own desire to decide for himself.

If you reasonably loved him then set your personal boundary. This is the only way to build strong relationship with your husband. Don’t focus on the future that your husband will find another you someday. You need to understand that you are the one creating your destiny. You can’t alter what’s store in the future. What you can do is only how to manage certain circumstances that ill you. You can’t hold the future into your hands.

Even how your husband loves you, he has his limitation and patience of your continued meddling. If his patience run out then you will find yourself in hot water. Acting it possessively will not give good result instead it will be a threat to your relationship. Once misunderstanding sets in, trouble begins. If you will not give up, the more he will not give in.

Understanding spiced with trust is the key for long lasting relationship. If you have to start learning how to trust, don’t intervene in whatever decision or action your husband want to take. You only need is to support him. If you will not pamper your relationship, the integrity of your partnership with him will be lost. Instead make it to prosper and blossom for your marriage to last for long to old age. Limit your intervention then you will find peace within yourself.

Maintain your good relationship to the maximum. Control your bad thoughts. Make it a point to have enough self-control. Your support is a he need. Don’t pamper your possessiveness. It doesn’t bring your goodness. It can only scare away a good relationship you wanted to build. Don’t let loose in your hands. It will be too late to recover if something will be lost, his feeling in you.

The secret of developing long lasting relationship is a give-and-take communication, putting intimacy above all things. If there is trust, honesty and understanding, there’s no way for a disagreement to become a serious trouble. If you all both agreed in many things, respecting each other view, position and decision, any little misunderstanding can be resolve with dispatch without letting it to go out in your hands.

Possessiveness has disastrous effect to a relationship. Focus your mind of developing it more but not by destroying it blindly. It’s no use wanting it and then letting it go because of an emotional disturbance that can’t be controlled.