EXPRESSIVE-TYPE OF BEHAVIOR

Another kind of behavior is worth knowing. He was friendly but in disguise. You can’t be sure of his true feeling to you. He was showy but it is not a guarantee of a true friendship. He doesn’t care if such friendship is known to anybody or to most people. It is not of his interest.

Whatever he did, whatever his relationship with other people, whatever success in store for him, he wanted to be known by everybody even in public. His expressive attitude put him in the limelight. He becomes the star in the crowd. He controlled the environment as if he is only a man of extra-ordinary abilities among the crowd. He valued his relationship with other people if he thinks he can use it at his advantage.

His ability to win people’s belief made him popular. He valued other people’s view as well as his faith of his ability. This aspect of his life was the result of the hidden strength it had in himself.

He becomes a crowd drawer as he started to talk, many will listen to him attentively and with interest. He put humor to his speech to remove the boredom most listeners do. There was no need for him to pretend. It was his natural way of dealing people. Laughing was the language of the heart. If you have these, it may lengthen your life. An expressive attitude has full of these. He was lively and humorous to talk to people in any given circumstances and they liked him. If he was in the presence of them, the atmosphere was more interesting and enjoyable.

He listened to other people’s mind. He was willing to give his views and opinion for the satisfaction of everybody. At the same time, he respected opinion of others he found to have of value. He was ready to fight what he think is right. He did not care if he entered into disagreement with other people. If he thinks it is the right thing to do, he will protect and defend on it.

Whatever his strengths were his weaknesses also. If he is under stress for whatever reasons he can’t function well. He easily discouraged if he us under heavy stress. He can’t perform effectively. He was not a born leader. He was born follower. He worked well under strict supervision from someone on top. 

But if there is heavy pressure in his job function, something goes wrong along the lines. There were lapses in his performance. He was easily confused in the complex details of his work. It seemed he was slow learner to absorb specific instruction given to him especially if he has no idea how to do it. But if he knew very well, it gives him comfort and more effective in performing his duties.

He had low self-esteem. It needed to drive him hard before it can flicker his interest. If his self-esteem is high, he can do the job without or with little supervision. He had lack of courage to pursue if it gives him difficulties.

He needed someone to boost his morale. That was the reason why he was effective if he work in a group rather than working alone. He was more relax and confident that if something goes wrong at least the burden is not on himself alone. The group can give their support if he needed to something he can’t handle alone. Once in a group, the atmosphere was different compared to work singly. They can talk sensibly, jokingly and laughing together. This is the moment of interaction that later on will develop into a long lasting friendship.