Showing posts with label feeling. Show all posts
Showing posts with label feeling. Show all posts

Thursday, March 3, 2016

DESTRUCTIVE-TYPE OF BEAVIOR



There are people that have no reservation in talking or commenting what’s in their mind even if it is destructive to one’s own feeling. Once he opened his mouth, it causes trouble. He doesn’t hesitate to say what he had seen, what things he don’t like. Without respecting the privacy of others, many of them expresses their distaste and easily irritated of minding other personal affairs.

Being talkative, he captured the attention of those in a group. He was good actor giving opinion as if he knew everything. He easily criticized any action, a sour in his eyes and a pain in his ears. He had lesser friends but many enemies. He doesn’t care if it severed a relationship. What is important to him is that what he has to say to something even it hurts somebody’s feeling.

He had his positive side. He can get the attention of others because he knew how to win their trust. He spoke humorous punch line, witty jokes. He talked something that do not make sense just to seek their attention and entertain them.

He had active and lively happy life. He was friendly or outspoken. But other people found him irritable and some found him very accommodating. He knew how to place himself among them even if he knew them only briefly. He can manage new friendship with confidence clipping his shyness and talked to them without fear. The people around enjoyed his company of being good conversationalist. But beware, if he don’t like, he felt irritated and angry. That is not the best part of his character. He can easily loss a friend and destroy the lively atmosphere.

He had creative imagination. He can easily formulate something of importance, give comfort for their advantage. His view is a manner of interest, clear and understandable to comprehend. His creativeness put him to explore new things of value. His inventive attitude can easily find fresh ideas most useful to everyone.

If given a new task, he kept his interest alive. His innovation makes other people impressed of his ideas and applications. The way he handled the feelings of others was inconclusive. Sometimes he was willing to listen, sometimes he showed his destructive nature and unwarranted criticism. He easily noticed flaws of others but has no idea to know his own flaws. He will not push the issue if caught between the lines.

He showed impulsiveness in his behavior.  He had his weakness when it comes to decision making. He was weak and careless. He made impulsive decision that are irrational without bearing to the solution of the problem especially if he was pressured and don’t know what to do. His creativeness and imagination only confined to isolated cases. But his greatest lapses were how to make right decision. He liked a worry-free situation, less effort activity. He panicked if it gives him stress of his inability to handle them.

He was very interested in doing new things but later on his interest waned. Instead of striving for the best, he settled the less because of his loss of interest.

He was fond of doing silly things without purpose, without good intention to make a scene and to entertain. There has no rationalism in such wasted act that has no purpose at all. He was careless by making immediate conclusion without knowing first the true fact, an irresponsible action that most often irritate people. He made generalization of his comments with no excuses or exceptions to those that are good and different because of his failure to know the details first before talking too much. By not paying attention to details, may end in lapses of behavior.

He loved to be acknowledged and recognized his strength and his helpful contribution. He was egoistic, loving himself more. He was not protective or doesn’t care in handling the sensitivity of other people. He violated their ego, but if his ego is touched severely, it pained him deeply. He was too emotional, touchy with erratic mood that controls his good sanity.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

TAKE CARE OF MY BABY

As your wife gives birth to a beautiful baby girl, you cannot explain your feeling upon seeing her sleeping in a crib in the hospital. The medical intern in the pediatric room was there watching your baby ready to feed a bottle of milk when she awake. You child was in deep sleep as if she was contented with her life outside her mother's womb. Your wife was in private room taking her rest to recover her lost energy during the time she labored the child.

Thinking how the situation occurred in the delivery room, it was still fresh in her mind how she twisted her face for the never ending pain, gasping for air forcing all her efforts in letting the child out in her temporary shelter to the world of the living. She was exhausted but her face shines knowing that the child was there in her bedside wriggling, crying to an emotion hard to understand. And few minutes later, she was asleep.

When you went home together from the hospital, your new life with the baby begin. Your daily routines were feeding, taking care of diapers, bathing, pacifying the little girl's crying. You were overjoyed of having your first child. You asked this before and you will not ask for more.

You picked up the baby, cradled her in your arms, feels her softness, a very fragile angel. You were very gentle in handling her taking caution to the soft spot in her head. You picked her up by slipping one hand behind her neck and her head, a very convenient position for the baby. You let the child's head rest above your shoulder with her body against your chest to hear the beats of your heart.

You talked to her even if she did not understand you. You sing a song without a lyric and an ending just a humming to feel your presence. Your voice had an effect to the baby as she sleep in your shoulder. This is the voice she will seek when she is not in your arms. Baby's intelligence can remember every voice, every touch you did to her. It is a reflex response knowing her parents were there taking care of her.

The ideal way of feeding a baby is by breastfeeding. It strengthens the bonding of the mother to her baby. This relationship gives closeness to her mother when she started growing.

Being a father, show your bonding to her. Take care the child when your wife is not around. You have to take the function as a mother in nurturing her. A function that can mold into closeness to her. Giving her water in a dropper to respond to her needs.

-Put the child in a room that are very comfortable, a quiet room free from any noise. Child is very sensitive to it that will keep her awake.

-Do an alternative feeding by using milk in can. Always hold the bottle in such a way that the nipple is always covered with milk to avoid her to suck air.

-After feeding, try to burp her. It can relieve stomach distress that will result to child's belching, the discomfort for her to cry.

-Always anticipate your child's need as she started growing more.

Caring a child is a wonderful habit by giving her comfort and attention. You and your wife should be there at her side most of the time.

You did not care the tiredness in your body from your work in the office. When you go home and see your child smiling at you, a wonderful feeling of contentment and satisfaction to be the father of this beautiful child.

Thursday, January 15, 2009

TRY TO WIN MANY FRIENDS

Winning friends improves your personality. Some of us are fond of being alone. Being shy was the problem of many of us.

You are more comfortable if you just sit there looking at them. You had limited friends, only those who are the one making friend with you in certain occasion. You just sit there expecting someone to approach you instead of making an effort to make friend with them.


We understand you being an introvert type of a man. It is your nature to be uncommunicative. But to be friendly improves your personality and your way of life. Having many friends have advantages:

-You will be feeling happy with them going together. This will serve as a self-improvement to you.

-Seek support from them if you have personal problem. They are ready to help you and lend a hand.

-You can learn many things from them about their life, experiences, sacrifices and adventures. This will be your learning tools to compare their life with yours. Share your ideas with them, you can learn more.

-A close friend will not leave you. He is there with you in your time of grief and happiness.

-It can save your life. He is ready to give his life to you and protect you.

-You will know the value of having a friend that treat you as brother.

-You know how to trust people as well as trusting yourself.

-It relieves your stress in life.

-It is your chance to look for someone you like and be a partner in life.

Start winning friends now. Don't be selective. A friendly person is ready to welcome you as long as you are willing to accept them as new friends. Know their feelings, exchange views, share with them their laughter or give them comfort in time of sorrow, then you will realize that you are not a total failure after all.

Friday, January 9, 2009

CAN YOU HELP CHILD BOREDOM?

I have known a child in our place who always sickly and get tired sitting in the bench looking around just staring there, his mind wandering somewhere. He will not talk to anybody of his age. He always alone. When someone ask him, seldom he talk and just nod.

His parents were both working. The demand of their job cause inability to communicate with their child. Their older daughter was the one taking care of him. The scenario of this child is only one among the many children similar to what happened to the child I had just mentioned. His behavior has relation to the way parents raised him as a child. A child is always craving attention from their parents in the early years of his life. This is the most critical period for child development where utmost attention is needed.

The attention he seek is seldom given by his parents because they do not understand the way to deal with their child's feeling and expectation. This inattentiveness in the part of the parents can affect child's behavior developing in his mind the ill-feeling about the way they are treating him.

A child is very observant and meticulous. If his parents cannot see him, he became irritable believing that his parents did not love him. This is a very delicate behavior that parents should look and see. If parents continue to ignore child's small craving for attention it may lead to a problem later. This negative feeling will develop into a full blown misbehavior that parents can not allow.

What is lacking in this situation is communication. If parents and a child are communicative to each other, there will be harmony and better atmosphere at home where the child and his parents are talking and sharing laughter in their moment of joy and wonderful togetherness. It is not the reason for parents to make an excuse about their job. They have a lot of time to do this after work.
Child's relationship to his parents will depend on how parents are rearing their child. Good direction is involved here, to a relationship that if not handled with great care can lead to a problem later on.

During the time when parents are at home, why not let a child participate in their daily chores. Why not assign to him a certain task that he can do and become his everyday routine. This is helpful to him to develop a sense of responsibility to remove his boredom and be more productive. This will serve as his training and at the same time sharing a moment for both of them to develop a closer relationship and better understanding beneficial to the child.