Showing posts with label expectation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label expectation. Show all posts

Thursday, March 3, 2016

PERFECTIONIST-TYPE OF BEHAVIOR



He acted based on reasons. He was meticulous in his decision. He acted with confidence that it’s the right thing. He will not decide if he is not sure of himself. His action depended on the security of its reasons. He wanted to know first every angle of the situation, its benefits and possible disadvantages.

 He needed enough time to decide before he act based on his assessment of affirmation. He gathered facts, seeking opinion from other people and make mental evaluation of his position and then make necessary action. Everything should be look into before he can come up with the solution.

He was not good in conversation. He was not straightforward as he talked. If he talk it is always on facts. He was so business-like that others find hard to understand him in simple language. His way of thinking is more advance and even complex in substance. It was boring hearing his words.

The concept of his attitude is his fear of failure. He doesn’t want in any way to commit mistakes. Any indecision should be taken into account deeply and surely. Mistakes is costly that he wanted to avoid. No one is perfect but for him he acted on perfect sense giving no room for errors.

He was risk avoider. He will not experiment an action that has no sure result. He devised other options in case the first one failed. His insistence is his trademark. It was his perfect sense of security to always be on the safe side.

A company is not devoid of many problems. A leader always look into the welfare of the whole organization. He sees it that everything at hand is in order. The success of the business will depend on how it is properly manage. He see to it that all governing instruction are followed.

It should be in no way anyone in the organization deviate to the established systems and procedures. Any careless decision affects the whole structure of the organization. The skill of the leader is important to be a perfectionist in nature because of the interest of the company he wanted to protect.

 Any failure affects its profitability. It will cause reduction of workforce. There are many employees that will lose their job.  We can’t blame the leader as perfectionist. The future of the company lies in his hands. Any decision he make is repeated and reviewed hundred times before action be done.

He acknowledged other people’s potential. An employee who dispense his job in perfection is being recognized. If the employee comes up with best solution to the problem for the benefit of everyone, the leader gives him rewards of any form to acknowledge his contribution and good work. With it, he can gain favors from him which he willingly give if found to be reasonable.

Being risk conscious has positive side. It protects the company and its people. There will be an atmosphere of peace in the working environment. It will develop into highest level of confidence.

Perfectionist always adhered to comply with rules and regulation. This was his guide to have safe, secure and established company. There was boundary of action to prevent it to go beyond the guidelines.

He was egoistic. His high pride put him above others. He will not seek help from others in time of his helplessness. He will solve his difficulties alone. He will not initiate conversation. If someone talks to him it was the time he open his mouth. He will not offer an opinion but he will entertain it if it was brought to him first.

A delayed decision cost resources. A perfectionist can’t decide quickly if there were lacked of necessary supports, important data and required documents to be able to come up with a decision. If it entails considerable waste of time, so be it not until he is satisfied.

He kept his emotion hidden. He doesn’t want it to be known. Being too emotional is a weakness. Feeling weak is not his menu. His strength is his ticket to fame.

Monday, February 2, 2009

YOUR CHANCE TO BE HAPPY

Happiness is a feeling of contentment. This satisfaction was there inside you. Your mood changes, your face shines, your eyes brightens. Your smiles has meaning, it lightens your good mood as if it is an eternal bliss.

How about those in grief for a long time? Do they still have a chance to be happy?

Living in this life was always being tried by so many barriers that blocked our chances to be happy. Trials, challenges, pains, heartaches, sorrows are only part of the many disturbing emotions that from time to time will come to us unexpected. We don't have peace of mind due to this emotional crisis. It hurts us so much. Our courage failed. This emotional problems conquered us, as if there's no life left in us.

You felt the sorrow when your career was gone, when your son died or when your wife leaved you with another man. Three cases of painful emotions testing your courage to cope with the pain. You were not thinking right, you were depressed and don't know where to go, who will you to turn to. Everything changes in you, your personality, your behavior. You have been skipping meals because your sorrow. Your stomach was full of emotional stress. Where all those happy days? Sometimes, this painful experiences make you decide by ending your life. You are not used in living alone. Being alone can remember your devastated life, your troubled thoughts, and your happiness that gone forever. It took you many years to recover from the painful tests in your life. During the time of your retreat, although your mind started to calmly rest, you ask yourself if you can still find your own happiness.

You can find your own happiness if you want to. You are the one controlling your life. It is easy to make a decision. Why prolong the pain when there's still chance to be happy? Let all those past memories to keep away in your mind and start a new life.

Find a new family to inspire you. Find them if you have the will. Find a new job to support you. Find friends to comfort you. Always have peace of mind and use all the remaining years of your life to feel happy and satisfied. Enlighten yourself by choosing what is best for you. Choosing to be happy is your best alternative. What happened before was a bad dream for you. Don't let yourself have another bad dream. Conquer it in your mind. Don't allow it to over-rule you.

Life are tests, expectations and heartaches. If your body is weak, this surprises will conquer you and your chance to be happy cannot be realized. Accept the reality. Don't bother yourself remembering your past memories and painful events that shattered you deeply. Go on and be happy. There is still happiness ahead if you only try. Get it and have it for your happiness.

Friday, January 9, 2009

CAN YOU HELP CHILD BOREDOM?

I have known a child in our place who always sickly and get tired sitting in the bench looking around just staring there, his mind wandering somewhere. He will not talk to anybody of his age. He always alone. When someone ask him, seldom he talk and just nod.

His parents were both working. The demand of their job cause inability to communicate with their child. Their older daughter was the one taking care of him. The scenario of this child is only one among the many children similar to what happened to the child I had just mentioned. His behavior has relation to the way parents raised him as a child. A child is always craving attention from their parents in the early years of his life. This is the most critical period for child development where utmost attention is needed.

The attention he seek is seldom given by his parents because they do not understand the way to deal with their child's feeling and expectation. This inattentiveness in the part of the parents can affect child's behavior developing in his mind the ill-feeling about the way they are treating him.

A child is very observant and meticulous. If his parents cannot see him, he became irritable believing that his parents did not love him. This is a very delicate behavior that parents should look and see. If parents continue to ignore child's small craving for attention it may lead to a problem later. This negative feeling will develop into a full blown misbehavior that parents can not allow.

What is lacking in this situation is communication. If parents and a child are communicative to each other, there will be harmony and better atmosphere at home where the child and his parents are talking and sharing laughter in their moment of joy and wonderful togetherness. It is not the reason for parents to make an excuse about their job. They have a lot of time to do this after work.
Child's relationship to his parents will depend on how parents are rearing their child. Good direction is involved here, to a relationship that if not handled with great care can lead to a problem later on.

During the time when parents are at home, why not let a child participate in their daily chores. Why not assign to him a certain task that he can do and become his everyday routine. This is helpful to him to develop a sense of responsibility to remove his boredom and be more productive. This will serve as his training and at the same time sharing a moment for both of them to develop a closer relationship and better understanding beneficial to the child.