EXPRESSIVE-TYPE OF BEHAVIOR

Another kind of behavior is worth knowing. He was friendly but in disguise. You can’t be sure of his true feeling to you. He was showy but it is not a guarantee of a true friendship. He doesn’t care if such friendship is known to anybody or to most people. It is not of his interest.

Whatever he did, whatever his relationship with other people, whatever success in store for him, he wanted to be known by everybody even in public. His expressive attitude put him in the limelight. He becomes the star in the crowd. He controlled the environment as if he is only a man of extra-ordinary abilities among the crowd. He valued his relationship with other people if he thinks he can use it at his advantage.

His ability to win people’s belief made him popular. He valued other people’s view as well as his faith of his ability. This aspect of his life was the result of the hidden strength it had in himself.

He becomes a crowd drawer as he started to talk, many will listen to him attentively and with interest. He put humor to his speech to remove the boredom most listeners do. There was no need for him to pretend. It was his natural way of dealing people. Laughing was the language of the heart. If you have these, it may lengthen your life. An expressive attitude has full of these. He was lively and humorous to talk to people in any given circumstances and they liked him. If he was in the presence of them, the atmosphere was more interesting and enjoyable.

He listened to other people’s mind. He was willing to give his views and opinion for the satisfaction of everybody. At the same time, he respected opinion of others he found to have of value. He was ready to fight what he think is right. He did not care if he entered into disagreement with other people. If he thinks it is the right thing to do, he will protect and defend on it.

Whatever his strengths were his weaknesses also. If he is under stress for whatever reasons he can’t function well. He easily discouraged if he us under heavy stress. He can’t perform effectively. He was not a born leader. He was born follower. He worked well under strict supervision from someone on top. 

But if there is heavy pressure in his job function, something goes wrong along the lines. There were lapses in his performance. He was easily confused in the complex details of his work. It seemed he was slow learner to absorb specific instruction given to him especially if he has no idea how to do it. But if he knew very well, it gives him comfort and more effective in performing his duties.

He had low self-esteem. It needed to drive him hard before it can flicker his interest. If his self-esteem is high, he can do the job without or with little supervision. He had lack of courage to pursue if it gives him difficulties.

He needed someone to boost his morale. That was the reason why he was effective if he work in a group rather than working alone. He was more relax and confident that if something goes wrong at least the burden is not on himself alone. The group can give their support if he needed to something he can’t handle alone. Once in a group, the atmosphere was different compared to work singly. They can talk sensibly, jokingly and laughing together. This is the moment of interaction that later on will develop into a long lasting friendship.

DESTRUCTIVE-TYPE OF BEAVIOR

There are people that have no reservation in talking or commenting what’s in their mind even if it is destructive to one’s own feeling. Once he opened his mouth, it causes trouble. He doesn’t hesitate to say what he had seen, what things he don’t like. Without respecting the privacy of others, many of them expresses their distaste and easily irritated of minding other personal affairs.

Being talkative, he captured the attention of those in a group. He was good actor giving opinion as if he knew everything. He easily criticized any action, a sour in his eyes and a pain in his ears. He had lesser friends but many enemies. He doesn’t care if it severed a relationship. What is important to him is that what he has to say to something even it hurts somebody’s feeling.

He had his positive side. He can get the attention of others because he knew how to win their trust. He spoke humorous punch line, witty jokes. He talked something that do not make sense just to seek their attention and entertain them.

He had active and lively happy life. He was friendly or outspoken. But other people found him irritable and some found him very accommodating. He knew how to place himself among them even if he knew them only briefly. He can manage new friendship with confidence clipping his shyness and talked to them without fear. The people around enjoyed his company of being good conversationalist. But beware, if he don’t like, he felt irritated and angry. That is not the best part of his character. He can easily loss a friend and destroy the lively atmosphere.

He had creative imagination. He can easily formulate something of importance, give comfort for their advantage. His view is a manner of interest, clear and understandable to comprehend. His creativeness put him to explore new things of value. His inventive attitude can easily find fresh ideas most useful to everyone.

If given a new task, he kept his interest alive. His innovation makes other people impressed of his ideas and applications. The way he handled the feelings of others was inconclusive. Sometimes he was willing to listen, sometimes he showed his destructive nature and unwarranted criticism. He easily noticed flaws of others but has no idea to know his own flaws. He will not push the issue if caught between the lines.

He showed impulsiveness in his behavior.  He had his weakness when it comes to decision making. He was weak and careless. He made impulsive decision that are irrational without bearing to the solution of the problem especially if he was pressured and don’t know what to do. His creativeness and imagination only confined to isolated cases. But his greatest lapses were how to make right decision. He liked a worry-free situation, less effort activity. He panicked if it gives him stress of his inability to handle them.

He was very interested in doing new things but later on his interest waned. Instead of striving for the best, he settled the less because of his loss of interest.

He was fond of doing silly things without purpose, without good intention to make a scene and to entertain. There has no rationalism in such wasted act that has no purpose at all. He was careless by making immediate conclusion without knowing first the true fact, an irresponsible action that most often irritate people. He made generalization of his comments with no excuses or exceptions to those that are good and different because of his failure to know the details first before talking too much. By not paying attention to details, may end in lapses of behavior.

He loved to be acknowledged and recognized his strength and his helpful contribution. He was egoistic, loving himself more. He was not protective or doesn’t care in handling the sensitivity of other people. He violated their ego, but if his ego is touched severely, it pained him deeply. He was too emotional, touchy with erratic mood that controls his good sanity.

CONFIDENT-TYPE OF BEHAVIOR

A confident man is not afraid to take responsibility even how hard it was because of inner strength he developed to be able to face the challenge. He was the kind of people that is strong-willed, efficient and hardworking. There was always risk in making decision. There is decision that ends in failure because no one knows what will happen ahead. But it did not deter him to make decision he believed the right one and willing to do more if necessary for the benefit of one or the many. 

He was not easily discouraged of failure, the more he work hard in his belief that everything will be put into the right place. A father made almost all decision at home even the tiniest details of family life including the critical decision that warrants his attention. The foundation of his life was about decision-making. This was the only way for him to survive.

He has business-like quality. He can run the business with ease and confident. He knows which direction his business should be and how he can improve it to be profitable. Whatever task is given him, he always sees that it is done right, properly, completely and on time. He will not let certain job left hanging. It is not his kind. He was always responsible in his function. If it takes a certain task many hours to comply, he will do so without any regret. It was his nature to finish the job even how hard it will be.

If he is around friends, he has fresh ideas to share with them especially if they have specific activity to pursue. He maintained good relationship to anyone. He was not sensitive of his feeling. He listened and understood. Any constructive criticism is a challenge to him to improve his work. If someone crosses his path with misunderstanding not of his own making, he avoided confrontation. He will not add fire to the situation. He always hope that disagreement is settled in proper and civilized way.

He was not panicky if there is problem along the line. He remained calm with highest level of confidence and hopeful he can find ways to manage any hindrances and put a stop to the effect it cause in working environment. He has highest points of performance, doing it right, fast and on schedule. He doesn’t want to waste time because of inefficiency. Performance below the level of acceptance is costly. Spending time and effort is worthless without positive result.

The calmness of his behavior towards treating a new task assigned to him, give him too much confidence that he can handle it well and striving that it can be done right, fast and on time. He was confident that he can make rational and wise decision if problem arises in handling the new task. He was striving for excellence giving no room for failure. His innovative ideas made his job easier to handle.

He was born leader. If given the chance to lead a group of people, he can lead them even during crucial moment of their lives. He did not feel afraid of responsibility instead it challenge him to make the best of it. He was true to himself without pretending to be good. Even during the time of his difficulties, he will not seek help from other people. He just kept it to himself because of his belief and great confidence that he can find ways to brace the impact of his burden.

He give more time in the performance of his work, gathering many new ideas important in his planning and decision-making if the need arises rather than putting more time with his family. 

If it happens that you are under him, you have to focus your attention to your work as he always expects result and hard work. He was very strict about task deadline. If overtime is necessary to submit the report on schedule you have to do it fast. You have to follow and toe the line. You are always reminded to obey whatever he asked you to do especially the necessity of completing your work to be able catch up the deadline.

MEMORIES TO REMEMBER

As we aged, some unforgettable memories hiding inside our mind are ready to be recalled when given a chance to remember. The memories can never be forgotten as time passes by. Our mind was a storehouse keeping all past events that happened. It was there whether it has a happy ending or a very painful one.

Memories are recollection of past stories that we don't want to forget. It keeps coming back every minute of it. It just flashed in our mind during the period of our solitude even before we sleep. It has wonderful feeling worth remembering but sometimes it also bring sadness. Sometimes it hurts our pride. There are instances that our lives are put to the test and then survived.

There are memories we wanted to forget and remember. Remembering thus happy moment caused us to have that big smile especially if it is very important to be remembered. There is a feeling of happiness, contentment and peace. 

I had a painful experience when I was still a teenager. I accompanied my father seeing our land that we cleared for planting sorghum. With me was my little sister age 7. When we decided to cut a single tree that shadowed the clearing, I myself was the one cutting it without realizing that my little sister was near the area. I told her to stay away from  portion of the clearing but she disobeyed and go near it without my knowledge. When the tree is about to fall, the direction changes due to wind movement altering its supposed  path of falling instead it went directly to the site where my little sister was standing. The tree missed her 3 feet but she was caught by the branches dropping her to the ground. My first reaction was panic especially when my little sister moaned instead of crying. We found out that her left leg was hit by the branches. She can't stand alone and in great pain. We immediately brought her to the health center in our place for treatment of cuts and bruises in some parts of her body. But the redness in her legs decided us to bring my sister to the hospital for thorough medical check-up.

We did not delay in bringing her to the hospital. Physical examination with the aid of x-ray result showed that her left leg has 2 small fractures. I cried seeing the condition of my sister who started having a fever. I felt the guilt feeling inside me by not making it sure before felling that tree. It was a negligence that bothered me most of the time even during my waking hours.

The doctor did the plaster casting after stretching to put the cracked bones to its place and into stable condition. It took a month for my sister to stay in the hospital. Another month for recuperation in our home before the plaster cast was removed. Another x-ray exposure been taken that showed the cracked bones healed slowly but my little sister has to use braces and crutches to protect the bones to give way. 

This experience continued bothering me every hour of my life blaming myself to the accident. Even after several years, it is still fresh in my mind the scene that I cannot completely forget.

Memories can never be forgotten if it pained us to remember.

A WAY OUT TO DEBT

The call of modern lifestyle is the reason why paying the monthly bills becomes a burden to our limited resources and the incapacity to pay. We will be caught in a trap of overspending if we allow it to enslave us. We are very fond of having material things and spending unnecessary expenses because it was our habit to show to the world that we can manage even if it is not. This is the result of irrational spending that put us in misery. The difficulty that we have now is of our own making. We are shortsighted to govern our decision without thinking repeatedly how to tackle the burden of debt.

We are in the hardship of looking for money to pay the stacks of liabilities from the bank, pawn shops, lending institution and from friends. This is the time we asked ourselves, "What had I done?" and how to escape from the bondage of debt that started crippling the core of our very lives.

Debt becomes the source of trouble in the family. Parents were in conflict how to handle the management of overspending and how to control it. It destroys the happiness and comfort instead of not having to worry something too much. The kind of character we have put pressure to our destructive habit that leads us to the hardship our family is now facing.

Overspending can crippled our lives for being careless in making a sound financial decision and become the root cause of emotional problem destroying the fabric of a happy family.

There is still chances to escape from being a slave to debt:

Start facing the realities that spending should be done less than what you have earn.

Avoid your many wonderful fantasies when you knew you don't have the capacity to pay.

Make a habit to be reasonable. Don't start making a problem by putting in debt. By doing it, it will be a hard time to be out it.

Make a complete mental make-over and strive to have a good financial stability for your peace of mind.

Challenge your destructive habit. Equip your mind with enough knowledge of wise-spending.

Be strong and avoid any temptation to go to the other side.

Have a good insight and put the welfare of your family first in your heart and material things later.

Do proper budgeting. Prioritize the most basic needs for your family. Find ways how you can save. Make a goal on how you can eliminate debt. Be firm to your decision. Do a little sacrifice, it is of your advantage.

Change your own kind of extravagant lifestyle. It will only bring you difficulties to pay your debt.

Overcoming debt is your best choice. Resist the temptation. Widen your sense of understanding for your comfort. Learn this secret and you will be assured it will not fail you.