POSITIVE OUTLOOK AS A WAY OF LIFE

We always look our life in negative ways. We easily give up if there are difficulties we can’t handle. We felt hopeless for the first sign of trouble. The burden of the problem makes us helpless.  We became weak, losing our strength and without any idea how to put the mind at ease. There’s too much trouble in our thoughts. It became a hindrance to our action. We have doubts of our ability to handle whatever is bothering us. 

Our negative perception of life slows down our progress stagnated the chances of living happy and satisfied. We closed our eyes to see the challenge ahead. Our weakness hampered our growth.

A mental states that is positively build has the ability to change failure to success. It gives him the opportunity to motivate himself to think openly. To think positive makes life challenging and promising. He is optimistic to improve his way of life without feeling discourage. It boosts his self-esteem to higher degree. 

His psychological and mental capacity is not easily affected by any bout of emotional disturbance. He can readily restraint any ill-feeling inside his mind. He can handle stress to lowest level without affecting his mental well-being. If there is difficult situation that needs attention, he can resolve it without too much of a problem.

Normal positive action has high degree of merits. It trained the mind to convert negative thought into positive one. To think positive in excess of what is expected of him has disadvantage. He becomes over-confident and has high level of ego expecting too much of himself even if he can’t exceed his limit.

Over-dependent of his positive aspects in life is no longer productive. Only a reasonable ways can bring good result and will motivate himself into better person. His mental ability in handling situational problem was strong enough that he can’t easily affected by many challenges in life.  A negative thought process lowered self-esteem. There is mental weakness to uplift his spirit to do something in his favor rather than making a sickness to himself.

A good mental habit prevents frustration, despair and discouragement. It releases the burden in his mind to be more open to changes. He decided judiciously. He corrected his shortcomings and put his positive attitude into higher ground. 

He has complete control of his life. He build up confidence inside and ready to face any difficulties that lies ahead. He discouraged fears to develop because of his belief and unquestionable faith that everything can put into the right perspective. 

Most men acting positive were happy and contented. It gives them peace from mental torture. They conditioned their mind to look for ways to achieve whatever dream they wanted to accomplish. They set up a plan and then give focus to achieve it.

He gives many thoughts in his every action. He lengthened his perception first before he leap. Enough energy is needed to be able to work hard. Success is not offered in silver platter. It should be earned by sweats, hard work and patience.

 Any doubts for failure can be managed well and the power of concentration is high to hit the target. He can’t easily be distracted by other things because his interest was focused in certain objectives. He can initiate necessary action fast and easy. To act responsibly will not drive his mind away from his point of interest instead it motivates him to work hard and do more.

Positive attitude becomes a passion of pursuing certain objective no matter what the odds may be and it does not stop him to continue his intention. It is his hunger to accomplish something of value. His determination was strong as ever. He doesn’t stop even experiencing his first failure. It does not discourage him of thinking to back out but instead it gives him more inspiration to work harder until he is satisfied.

To have positive outlook in life will always win. There’s no giving up even in slight pressure. It energizes his body and mind working together for common purpose, to win from the battle of nerves.

THE BAD SIDE OF BEING POSSESSIVE

To possess is getting something you liked. You wanted to own it with a price or it heartily given to you from someone. There’s certain happiness inside you, a satisfaction that has no bound.

But to become possessive is another thing. It entails limitation within you. You can’t just get it without hurting someone. It is dangerous kind of emotion that you can’t control. You desire is too much to handle. You wanted to own it because of overwhelming fear that it will lost from your anytime which you can’t allow. It begins with doubts about the honesty of your husband. 

You wanted to control his movement because you don’t trust him. You wanted to know every movement he make - his whereabouts and clipped his decisions if it doesn’t suit you. Your mental strain kept on haunting your day and night. Sometimes your husband lost its temper of your too much meddling in his own affairs. But you kept on insisting because you wanted to control him completely no matter what happens but inside your heart you are not ready to bear the consequence of your action.

You need to understand that your husband is human, a person and not a possession He has its own personal space like you. He has his own desire to decide for himself.

If you reasonably loved him then set your personal boundary. This is the only way to build strong relationship with your husband. Don’t focus on the future that your husband will find another you someday. You need to understand that you are the one creating your destiny. You can’t alter what’s store in the future. What you can do is only how to manage certain circumstances that ill you. You can’t hold the future into your hands.

Even how your husband loves you, he has his limitation and patience of your continued meddling. If his patience run out then you will find yourself in hot water. Acting it possessively will not give good result instead it will be a threat to your relationship. Once misunderstanding sets in, trouble begins. If you will not give up, the more he will not give in.

Understanding spiced with trust is the key for long lasting relationship. If you have to start learning how to trust, don’t intervene in whatever decision or action your husband want to take. You only need is to support him. If you will not pamper your relationship, the integrity of your partnership with him will be lost. Instead make it to prosper and blossom for your marriage to last for long to old age. Limit your intervention then you will find peace within yourself.

Maintain your good relationship to the maximum. Control your bad thoughts. Make it a point to have enough self-control. Your support is a he need. Don’t pamper your possessiveness. It doesn’t bring your goodness. It can only scare away a good relationship you wanted to build. Don’t let loose in your hands. It will be too late to recover if something will be lost, his feeling in you.

The secret of developing long lasting relationship is a give-and-take communication, putting intimacy above all things. If there is trust, honesty and understanding, there’s no way for a disagreement to become a serious trouble. If you all both agreed in many things, respecting each other view, position and decision, any little misunderstanding can be resolve with dispatch without letting it to go out in your hands.

Possessiveness has disastrous effect to a relationship. Focus your mind of developing it more but not by destroying it blindly. It’s no use wanting it and then letting it go because of an emotional disturbance that can’t be controlled.

PERFECTIONIST-TYPE OF BEHAVIOR

He acted based on reasons. He was meticulous in his decision. He acted with confidence that it’s the right thing. He will not decide if he is not sure of himself. His action depended on the security of its reasons. He wanted to know first every angle of the situation, its benefits and possible disadvantages.

 He needed enough time to decide before he act based on his assessment of affirmation. He gathered facts, seeking opinion from other people and make mental evaluation of his position and then make necessary action. Everything should be look into before he can come up with the solution.

He was not good in conversation. He was not straightforward as he talked. If he talk it is always on facts. He was so business-like that others find hard to understand him in simple language. His way of thinking is more advance and even complex in substance. It was boring hearing his words.

The concept of his attitude is his fear of failure. He doesn’t want in any way to commit mistakes. Any indecision should be taken into account deeply and surely. Mistakes is costly that he wanted to avoid. No one is perfect but for him he acted on perfect sense giving no room for errors.

He was risk avoider. He will not experiment an action that has no sure result. He devised other options in case the first one failed. His insistence is his trademark. It was his perfect sense of security to always be on the safe side.

A company is not devoid of many problems. A leader always look into the welfare of the whole organization. He sees it that everything at hand is in order. The success of the business will depend on how it is properly manage. He see to it that all governing instruction are followed.

It should be in no way anyone in the organization deviate to the established systems and procedures. Any careless decision affects the whole structure of the organization. The skill of the leader is important to be a perfectionist in nature because of the interest of the company he wanted to protect.

 Any failure affects its profitability. It will cause reduction of workforce. There are many employees that will lose their job.  We can’t blame the leader as perfectionist. The future of the company lies in his hands. Any decision he make is repeated and reviewed hundred times before action be done.

He acknowledged other people’s potential. An employee who dispense his job in perfection is being recognized. If the employee comes up with best solution to the problem for the benefit of everyone, the leader gives him rewards of any form to acknowledge his contribution and good work. With it, he can gain favors from him which he willingly give if found to be reasonable.

Being risk conscious has positive side. It protects the company and its people. There will be an atmosphere of peace in the working environment. It will develop into highest level of confidence.

Perfectionist always adhered to comply with rules and regulation. This was his guide to have safe, secure and established company. There was boundary of action to prevent it to go beyond the guidelines.

He was egoistic. His high pride put him above others. He will not seek help from others in time of his helplessness. He will solve his difficulties alone. He will not initiate conversation. If someone talks to him it was the time he open his mouth. He will not offer an opinion but he will entertain it if it was brought to him first.

A delayed decision cost resources. A perfectionist can’t decide quickly if there were lacked of necessary supports, important data and required documents to be able to come up with a decision. If it entails considerable waste of time, so be it not until he is satisfied.

He kept his emotion hidden. He doesn’t want it to be known. Being too emotional is a weakness. Feeling weak is not his menu. His strength is his ticket to fame.

SUPPORTIVE-TYPE OF BEHAVIOR

Every man has its own kind of behavior as he grow. It can evolve into something different due to influence he got from outside environment, from his peer groups and the modern way of living that forced him to adapt to changing times. The behavior may be good or bad depending on the degree of its effect to the individual how he nourish it to become one. If the influence is quite bad then he becomes a menace to the society and a threat to peaceful community. 

A delinquent child will continue to be problematic if he insisted in changing his direction. It is always the responsibility of the parents to mold their children into a good citizen full of good moral values.

A supportive type of behavior has its own unique quality, his strength and weakness. He was people-oriented due to his ability to give encouragement for the helpless, care about their difficulties and willing to give support to those in need. No need for him to be asked, he will do it because it was his nature. If they got problem, he is willing to listen, give advice and embrace them with comforting hug.

He always developed good relationship with those around him. He doesn’t want to enter into disagreement with anyone. He will do his best that such relationship is strong and has solid structure. He pleased those that need his counsel and not to fail them. He kept his silence to notice individual lapses.

  

Even if he was not in the mood, he will join with the tide interacting conversation to anybody or in a group discussing something of importance or has no importance at all. His responsiveness to people’s needs put them to liked him.

He supported people’s initiated activities. He participated when asked even if it does not interest him. He consented to join them but disinterested.

If he has emotional distress with other people, he suppressed the feeling before it worsens and kept his frustration under control. If he is angry, he just kept it to himself and always maintains a non-combative posture.

He was a follower. He was cooperative whatever function id assigned to him by his superior. He worked as long as he is supervised. He will obey without question what is required of him. If there is a necessity for him to serve, he is willing to do so. It was his desire to respond to the needs of other people even against his will.

It was his nature to give encouragement to those that have low self-esteem even if he knew he was also one of them too. He protected other people’s lapses and weakness. If it is necessary to see to protect their interest from unpleasant and damaging information, he will gladly make it so.

As a follower, he was not good in planning and decision-making for the benefit of the company or any other instances. He lacked the initiative to improve himself and makes his own image. He was only good in following orders. He took action for the execution of instruction under the leadership of his superior.

 It is hard to determine what’s in his mind. His though process was vague and unfathomable. His outside appearance does not speak truly what’s in his heart. He always consent and willing. It was his desire to please everybody and make them happy. He has no backbone of his own. He relied other people’s initiative and leadership.

Self-improvement may be slow for him because of his dependency with others. He supported others need but failed to support himself to be a better person.